What others think

Hi , Unfortunately none of us get to choose which type of breast cancer we get - in fact  I am sure all of us would choose NOT to have it at all. The treatment varies considerably and there is no one type fits all as we are treated as individuals thankfully. In my experience (see my profile if you wish) over 22 years with this ****** disease some of your friends will say innappropriate things - if they continue to do so  and don't accept your explanation perhaps it is time to review your frienship? But I have found that it is often misinterpretation of the facts that causes the problem for them . Of course the great benefit of this forum is that we who have had this disease know exactly how you feel -been there and bought the T shirt as they say. Sending big hugs xx

Hi Debs,

 I’m in a similar position with DCIS and was told by a health care professional at the breast screening centre that it was good news that it was ‘pre cancer’ and then promptly told me a mastectomy was the only option / way forward. It has left me feeling really unsettled and dare I say it angry. Made it sound like I only needed my in growing toenail removed!

Don’t feel a fraud. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel what you feel. It’s devastating. I feel like I’ve been hit by a train! the BCN I saw at the hospital on Monday during my appointment with the consultant called me today and has offered some counselling/ psychological support which I have accepted, perhaps you could access similar through your BCN?

I’m really struggling with all this too, here if you need to vent.

Susie