Panicked

Hi, 

     Nothing can prepare you for how you feel. Know that feeling as if all the airs been sucked out of you. Sorry about your husbands first wife. I was distracted by my kids with all the waiting able to think of her dancing show school things etc how ever it’s always there in your head . Hopefully you’ll find something to distract you and you don’t have to eat too much longer xxx

Thank you for your reply , hopefully the wait won’t be to long. I’ve been to the breast clinic a few time but never experienced this before well I was never told they had found a tumour, they have said doesn’t look like much to worry about we let you no by post anyway I hope your keeping well xx

Hi

I think the worst part for me was the waiting for my results, so I know what you are going through. Most of us feel anxious during the wait. Once you have your diagnosis and treatment plan you can concentrate on going forward. If you dont want to worry your husband post on here and someone will always respond. Talk to us anytime.

Take care, hugs

Linda x

Thank you I hope you are keeping well and managing to keep safe from covid 19 xx

Morning , 

The waiting is definitely the worst but hopefully it won't take too long for the results. Sharing on here and reading others experiences helps greatly  but a weight will be lifted from you once you share with your husband even though it will be difficult. He will want to be there for you and you need all the help and support at this very difficult time.

Audrey xx

Thank you I know I should speak to him I keep trying to avoid him, I think I maybe having slight panic attacks xx

I had a mastectomy in April 2020 and don't even know how I would have got through this without my husbands support. He has kept me positive all the way through from diagnosis to now. Please don't go through this alone, you will need him by your side. 

Thank you so much for replying I know I should speak to him, I think once I’ve been back and been told what the next step is I will definitely talk to him. I just feel so bad that he has to go through this again. I do hope you doing ok I wish you all the best xxx

I'm doing fine thank you. No further treatment except for hormone tablets, luckily they caught it early. I am coping much better than I thought I would, haven't told many people as I don't want them to feel sorry for me and my family has gone through so much recently. Your husband has been through so much but I'm certain he wouldn't want you to go through all this worry alone. I had to tell my dad while my mum was dying in an hospice from cancer, so know how you are feeling. Wishing you all the best. 

Just sending you a virtual hug!

Two years ago, I was waiting for results like you, I knew I had a least one tumour. The sheer panic was overwhelming, I couldn’t eat, sleep or really even talk about it to my husband. I went to see my gp...he was helpful and although he talked to me, he also gave me some anti anxiety medication (sertraline and propanol). It helped enormously, I could cope a lot better which meant I could talk to my family without breaking down. Of course, I was still scared, but when I had a plan in place I felt a lot better, I suppose I was taking control.

I am two years post diagnosis - almost to the day - I still take the medication and see my doctor regularly. I also come on here...and the awake thread for a rant...or a cry ....or a smile or two.

Keep posting and take care.