Terrified about all this

Hi and a warm welcome to this club, sorry you find yourself here as none of us would choose it, but lots of support and shared experiences, even a few laughs along the way. Re list of questions, I suspect the consultant will cover these but I’d suggest: proposed treatment plan; any further tests needed; an idea of time scale for any treatments; breast care nurse contact details (usually best first point of contact). 

Can you take someone with you to the appointment? I went for the initial tests on my own as I thought I’d go on to work afterwards (hollow laugh in retrospect, was there all morning and definitely in no mood to go to work by the time I was done!), but have taken hubby to any results appointments as I go into jelly mode and can’t really take it all in. Always have pen and paper as if I don’t write things down I’ll probably have forgotten it all by the end of the corridor. 

Do remember that although a cancer diagnosis is undoubtedly sh****, breast cancer is very treatable and it sounds like your lump is in the ‘small’ category which is good. The waiting is horrible but hopefully by this time tomorrow you will know the nature of the beast. Keep posting and asking questions, others will pop in with friendship and advice, the great thing here is that you’re never alone. Love and hugs, HFxx

Hi HappyFeet1,

Thanks so much for your welcome & suggestions - they are a real help.

Just had a bit of a tearful meltdown but calming down slightly as I now have a list to take with me! 
Hubby is coming to the appointment with me tomorrow which is early afternoon so he is going to write down all the answers. Have been trying to focus doing other things today but my mind just won’t let me think about anything else......grrrrr! Think sleep is going to very difficult tonight.

Anyway,  all fingers & toes crossed for tomorrow.

Love, Zeto xx

Hi , you’re allowed meltdowns, this is a horrible time and sadly nothing can make tomorrow come sooner! Will be thinking of you, and keeping everything possible crossed, hope you’re not waiting long. I always take a book with me but can rarely focus on it. Let us know how you get on. Love, HFxx

Hi Zeto,

A piece of advice that I was given and was really helpful was to only allow yourself to think about/worry about things that are actual facts. Otherwise you will spend the next few months spiralling into a deep hole of “what ifs”.

best of luck

M x 

Hi HappyFeet1, thank you! I will post an update when I know more tomorrow. Will probably have a load more things to ask then! 
Love & hugs, Zeto xx

Hi Mariella, thanks for that really good piece of advice which I will try to cling on to over the coming days! It’s so easy to worry about things that haven’t been said - I think my mind has gone over every possible scenario during the last week! Much appreciated.

Love, Zeto

It makes sense Zeto. It’s bad enough without worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. I hope you can stay calm x x 

Hi Zeto

I am new here too, and I get my biopsy results on Wednesday. Like you, I’m trying to carry on and be practical but I’ve had a tight melt down today.

I have a 1.9cm lump and I’m terrified about getting my results.

Just wanted to say although I don’t have any advice, hang on in there. I am with you, and we will get there and get onto the pathway we need to get rid of this!

Love Emski2623

Hi Emski2623,

Yes we will!

I’ve  been binge-watching a box set this evening in the hope it would take my mind off things - ha ha.

Will be thinking of you on Wednesday & keeping everything crossed for you!

Take care and hang in there too,

Love Zeto xx

Thinking of you tomorrow-let us know how you go x