Breast cancer

Hello and welcome though sad you needed to find your way here.

you’re not alone in this group, it’s friendly and busy, but you might still feel rather shell shocked and lonely at present.

Breast cancer nowadays is really well treatable, and many people are successfully treated and go on to live their lives as their new normal. 

The waiting for results honestly is tough, but rest assured you will get them, unfortunately some take a bit longer to process. 

please do continue posting, and bear in mind that if you’re awake during the wee small hours there’s an ‘AWAKE’ thread where other like minded nocturnal souls will often post with funny pics as well as thoughtful help. 

In  the meantime, sending you a big hug xxx

Your'e probably at the worst stage - waiting for test results.  I found this the worst time but it passes and before you know it, your'e tackling the beast.  I know how lonely it can be and I also know the fear.  If you can, find a local cancer charity that offers councilling.  I found one and it helped me more that i could ever imagine.  Sending you a big virtual hug that i hope will give you a little comfort.

Hi Julie 

glad you found your way here .right now you are at the worst time in all this . The waiting for your treatment plan believe it or not it's gets better when you have your plan . 

Come on here with any questions try not to google it usually out of date . There's always someone on here to support and offer advice .

You say you have already been told masectomy ,were you told this would be first treatment .I had masectomy first.

If they have not said yet don't be surprised if it's other treatment first then masectomy it all depends on type of cancer etc .

Your job now is to try to keep your self distracted until  Friday try to get out and about . Become a lady who lunches for the week lol

I went out shopping for hospital visit but made sure there was a coffee & cake reward 

Have a good browse around the threads there are some good reads and laughs to be had 

margaret x

Thanks Margaret, your words are a tonic to me, I was told mastectomy first but then when the nurse took us to one side she said they might try to stink the tumour so I wont know until Friday all I know is I want this shit taken out if ne as soon as possible, was you treated quickly as a friend I've just spoken to has scared me again saying oh they're getting you in a bit quick aren't they. I will try to keep myself busy as I work 2 days a week although my bloody back is playing me up now and that worries me as well, mode you we've been having work done at home so plenty of lifting and carrying. Thanks Margaret your post has made me think there us someone who cares. Julie xxx

Thank you so much for your kind words as in all over the place at the moment and obviously fearing the worst, I will try to find a group close to ne as I really feel I need the help at the mo. Sending bug hugs back to you darling. Xxx

Hi julie

read my bio so I’m not repeating but il bring you up to speed with me. My diagnosis date was 23 sept- by 24 Oct I have had my mastectomy. They would have done it sooner but I had a few other issues to be tested for non cancer related but anaesthetic related. 

Do not panic if they get you in early it is not because they know something you don’t. Likewise if you have a wait. 

I don’t do support groups or forums I don’t even do Facebook. But this site has been my lifesaver. Wonderful people who do what  friends can’t. Experience counts for so much. 

I suffer anxiety and have never been to the dr about it but I decided if I’m going thru this il make it easy on myself. Best thing ever. Gave me beta blockers. Just take the edge off so I’m not in the ceiling. All still early days for me but I’ve had every emotion. I felt a fraud, sat at work eating saying I’ve got cancer! 

Please vent on here it helps and no matter what I have put there is always someone saying I get it! 

Be kind to yourself. Breathe. You got this xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi Julie

Have a read of my profile I was given diagnosis and 8 days  later had masectomy. On 4/7 now on my treatment plan 4/6 chemo done .

Again I'll reassure you it does get better once you know your plan .You can then start taking control. Make Sure who ever goes with you has note book and pen and is good listener  also will ask question if nesc . I took daughter as hubby couldn't have coped . Both could come if I wished .

write any questions down you may think about as the week goes on then ask them .They won't mind .use this site and macmillan publications for easy to understand info . In a couple of months you'll be an expert on cancer terminology  

Learn to ignore the  well meaning comments from others unless they been there they don't know anything you are going thru The one I dislike most is the accusation of .. You look well .. I never know wether to apologise or laugh I'm minus one boob and hair .

. NHS state you should be seen Gp to hospital within two weeks . Then it usual for biopsy to be bout two weeks although some can take longer .

It's good you fighting and want rid of the  that's how I felt .

try to stay positive BC is so treatable now 

Have a good look at the stories on the different threads keep posting we're all here to help and support each other there'll be others coming along 

margaret x

Hi Margaret, I was diagnosed last Tues after having mammogram, ultrasound and two biopsies so this Friday when I go I'm hoping to get my plan so it's all happened quite quickly so far, you got yours done very quickly didn't you. I know what you mean about some people's comments as a friend said to me yesterday oh ut must be bad to be seen so quick, not words I need to hear especially with my anxiety levels....stupid women. 

I cant thank you enough for your support Margaret it means so much to me and today I had some lovely unexpected visitors which made me happy and emotional. Silly me. Xxx

Hi Tinker Bell, thank you for your kind words and advice at my time in need as I think we all feel so scared and lonely, your bit about anxiety is interesting as initially I got Diazepam and told to take them 3 times a day, i kind you not they knock me out completely which i don't mind at night but cant take them during the day as I'm still working a couple of days a wk plus have to drive. I might take one on Friday before i go back to the hospital as i know for a fact i wont cope, God i hate this anxiety and I'm so envious of confident people having said that everyone thinks I'm the confidant one as I love a laugh and joke. 

Are you having Chemo or have you got away with that one. I will try to be kind to myself. Xxxxxx

Thank you so much and I will keep posting. Xxx