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Hello Paguera,

there is no way you’re failing! You have just been hit with a nasty disease and it’s hit you in many ways, even the fact you’re trying to recover from surgery is a tough time, anaesthetics take at the most three entire weeks to get totally out of your system! 
please don’t berate yourself, you didn’t ask for this. Give yourself a gentle hug (as you truly deserve it!) and then look around the group; there are topics for chemo and radiotherapy, there’s even a thread called ‘AWAKE’ for those nasty times when you are super tired but your brain is full of the ‘what ifs’ and won’t let you sleep. 

Breast cancer treatments have come a very long way very quickly and I’m sure you’ll benefit by this group too, beware google, it’s very often full of scare stories and out of date!

hugs xxx

Thanks Moomy

Hi paguera

Silly talk, failing as a wife etc Of course you're not. It just our little friend giving your confidence a kicking. There's lots about treatments and operations etc but not so much about how it destroys your self-esteem. Even without the visible ravages that can make you feel you look crap.

So no more of that.

Radiotherapy after chemo will be a doddle. I didn't have chemo and I hated radiotherapy but it doesn't hurt, it doesn't make you feel bad. It does have some side effects which can be quite long term, some like the soreness are more temporary but not everybody gets everything, there are lots of variables.

The process is very quick, think x rays rather than MRI scan. And involves machines that cost millions I suppose, a school ruler and felt tip pens. There was a screen over the bed showing pictures of Yorkshire. By the time I'd worked out where they were of it was over. It also stopped me worrying about the six foot lizards with snipping fingers I had around me last time. 

You also have to display your boobs in front of strangers but they make it as dignified as possible.

You'll do fine. Boredom might be your greatest problem.

Gentle hugs my boon very sore today, I finished last week.