feeling low

Hi youngatheart

This is perfectly normal . I think it’s all of the shock that you have experienced in the last 12 months + . You have been to hell and back, we all have . 

Can you visit a Maggies Centre ? They are brilliant . I was tearful yesterday and my son said I may need to pay Maggies a visit too. 

I am so lucky to have some very very special friends who support me , but with people working more it’s not always easy to meet up. I am now retired - early !! 

Why not phone the helpline on here , I have spoken to them for emotional support and they have been brilliant , and so knowledgeable .

Keep going out and set small goals , plan just a few days ahead at a time and push yourself - you will be making happy memories. 

I go to aqua aerobics and it’s a laugh , especially when we all move in the wrong direction , we stop for coffee after too, so I have a bigger group of friends and it’s surprising when you get to know people , that they too have had illnesses ( 2 ladies , 20yrs and 10yrs clear of BC. 1 lady has so many iron rods in her body it mind blowing , 1 lady has MS, 1 guy has MEGA OCD! ) but we all laugh ! You need to laugh. 

I still want my old life back but that’s impossible , I have fewer “pity parties” = days in pjs eating cake and watching tv   But one now and again is ok. 

Please speak to MacMillan or go to Maggies .

why was I crying yesterday ? I have a cold and am very tired and it took me ages to wrestle with duvet cover to change it . Son gave me a cuddle ( hubby working in the garden) Ooo and I felt so much better. So just ask hubby for a cuddle and say how you feel , even if it’s about something silly - you will feel better. 

Im treating a friend - a friend who stepped up to the mark and never wavered during my BC journey - to couple of hours pampering and of course I’m joining her !! They won’t give me a massage but I’m getting an all over exfoliating treatment and it’s bliss , plus glam Nails and we will have a glass of bubbles too. 

Please phone , you will cry on the phone but I can assure you , that you will get help and feel recharged and very very NORMAL if you really want normal , CRAZY could be better and more fun.

Love 

Ruby Rose  

Thank you. I do think I need to widen my circle of friends. I have many but as you say life gets in the way when we are all so busy. I'm self employed so now I only work 4 days a week but it's not much help when my friends work 5. Hubby works very unsocial  hours so I'm often home alone. I do a yoga class and a slimming class and have weekends with my daughter but nobody I can really 'talk' to. There is a Maggie's an hour away from me so i think that could be an option for me. x

youngatheart

I got my 2 year clear last Saturday 

I was unsure whether to cry or laugh hysterically

One thing I have done is join in with different clubs/ classes

Aquafit being one and NO ONE there knows my back history. New people at my Tai Chi class don’t either . So no one does that dippy head sad look

They see me as me

I inhabited this site for a long time. Found amazing support and new friends . But now I pop in and out when I feel

the need .

Everything we have experienced leads us down a new path . Go with the flow and embrace rather than fight the new you

You obviously didn’t let cancer define you so don’t let the mending define you

Sustaining hugs

Leolady56

owww sending you big hugs youngatheart - first congratulations on your results.... you are normal in the way you feel, I posted on here for my 1st anniversary - I was expecting to feel so happy and excited... it wasn't like that at all.  I think it is 'we know were we were 12 months before and how life changed' so its a sad type of anniversary, even thought in reality we should be over the moon.

I've just can't even say 'celebrated' - should but guess what the 2nd years doesn't feel that much better either arrrghhh.

Be kind on yourself, you have gone through a lot and are now starting move forward - you will feel better, but at your own time, one step and one day at a time.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/f/breast-cancer-forum/170732/mammogram-s-and-anniversary-s-not-quite-how-i-had-expected?pi5765=1#1390345

Thinking of you and sending love and hugs xxx

Hi there congratulations on your scan results!!!!!!! I was in your situation last week my first scan results since starting chemo thought the worst of the worst as mine is rare anyway thought the operation would of done it but they said the fairy dust had spread so I was prepared for it being worse spread anywhere that was left to have a picnic on me and for consultant to say we can't do no more for you do when she spun in her chair and clapped her hands to tell me that all my tumers had shrunk including the liver I was in just as bad a state as being told the other way exactly the same as you and my best and only friend who everyone knows on here to be told bad news every time you face your consultant and then from nowhere out of the blue positive news I couldn't handle it I know it's not going to be like that all the time but boy oh boy it was brill love the lines you out on as well about boxing ring I have wrote them down and put them on in my memo board lots of love and hope xxx