I've been diagnosed with Breast cancer

Hey! Of course you are confused, baffled, scared... I am a year ahead of you....and now just climbing off that roller coaster ride!

Each month there is a thread for people going through chemo that month...it might help to read through say the June one to pick up some tips. One of the Champs I am sure can tag you on some information pages....

Do you know what chemo treatment you are having? I had FEC -T....my main tip is to be kind to yourself and take each day as it comes...everyone is different and react differently. 

Good luck....ask any questions, really anything....

There’s an under 50s breast cancer group too that you might want to message on.....

community.macmillan.org.uk/.../

Hey, I've was diagnosed last wk. I'm the same as you, it doesn't run in my family and I don't smoke or drink. I'm 43yrs old. It came as a huge shock. I'm meeting the consultant and surgeon this Thursday...I feel ...I don't know...telling my mom was harder than hearing the dr tell me. Looking  at my sister's faces is difficult, I know what they are thinking. ..I'm tired of worrying...

i have just responded to your post in the under 50s group, but it is very quiet in there and you will probably get more responses in here. Plus now we have answered it will push your post to the top.

Galligirl has already given you some brilliant advice, this is the link for the June Breast Cancer chemotherapy chat 

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Welcome to the group none of us ever wanted to join, but as you will soon see its the best place to be.

I was diagnosed last July i was 47, i now have the all clear. The worse thing is the waiting, once you have a treatment plan and you know whats happening it seems to get a bit easier. 

My mum was with me when i was told and she was the one who cried first. They think it should be them and not there babies, but like i said to my mum rather me than her because i'm young enough to kick it, and i did.

Talk to us about your worries, anything you aren't sure about, come for a shout, scream or cry. 

One thing i will say to both you and is, its easier talking to people who have or are going through the same. They get you, they understand and more times than not they either feel the same or they have felt the same.

Keep talking to us xx

Thanks for talking to me, my sisters are good but i dont talk to them about things that will make them upset, hence im putting on a brave face, but inside its different. I went in on my own to be told, i knew deep down the results, i just did. I visited the chiropractor and lying face down felt the lump which i already discovered. It was hard.i knew not a cyst. I knew looking at the sonogram aswell. They also did a biopsy. I asked my sis to sit and wait while i met with the consultant. Shed break in the room with me being told what it was. My mom said same as yours, it should have been me, im old (shes 72). I told her not to be so daft.  Im in shock. I cant believe it all. I went from the consultant telling me to then follow a nurse who was sorting out my next app, telling me i needed blood tests and mri. I had the mri last thursday. I got it due to a cancellation. The hospital rang at 7.30 night before to tell me. I feel im in limbo till Thursday. I have a list of questions in my head, stage, grade, type, recovery, chance of secondary cancer. I lost my best friend to cancer 2016, im walking through the same hospital, same places as i did with her. Makes it even more unbearable. I havent gone to work since diagnosis. 

I so feel for you, you are telling me exactly what happened to me this time last year,and now its done i so want to say, don't worry it will be fine. But that doesn't help you starting out, what i can tell you is, you can do this and you will do this. Its hard but it's doable, you'll have some bad days but you will have far more good days. Waiting is the worse and once you start your treatment you will hopefully feel better.

Use your breast care nurse if you have any worries or concerns, they're brill and will listen to you.

Failing that do as you have tonight and come and talk to us, no question is a silly one, i assure you i have asked a few and been surprised when people have agreed or said yes that happened to them.

Write all your questions down, then you can be sure to ask them all, just in case when you get in the room your mind goes blank. 

Your friend? She'll be beside you every step of the way, hopefully when you get chatting to us you will see lots of success stories and hopefully it will reassure you some what. 

Thanks for listening /typing i have no one to talk this through with. My head is all over the place. For the last 3days ive kept busy, ive sorted my garden, my sisters, cleaned the house. My sister got upset as she said i was doing it to sort it out as i think im goin to die.. I told her i needed to escape my house is the reason i sorted het garden out.... It helped me forget for a little while. I have to explain so much.. I dont want to...just got to wait till Thursday like you said to see whats what. Check in again with you all later. 

Yesterday i was at the hospital. The told me i could have a lumpectomy on the right, however i opted for mastectomy, i dont want it coming back, i made the decision after he told me the mri had picked something up on the left.. Im back in for a sonogram and biopsy... Looks like im prone to it. I went into shut down after this in the office. Everything went hazy in my head. I was asked about reconstruction, i said no, i dont care. The dr was lovely, shocked that most 43yr old would say yes. Im fed up. The nurse to me and my sis into another room, talked about prosthetic, reconstruction.. I wasnt there in mind in the room. I was thinking, both...what ***** luck do i have....questions in my head goin round, the dr and nurse agreed with the decision on tbe right, mastectomy, but what about the left, its the size of a pea but if im prone to this disease and i best just doin the same.... The dr said Leanne its piss poor luck you got this, especially at 43, i said i can think of of few more choice words to add to that... I dobt know about reconstruction, just trying ung to get my head around making the first initial decisions Operation will end of july.