Thought for the Day..

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I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.

It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people

When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing.  My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!

So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:

"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale.  There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below.  How would you feel stood there?" 

I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.

Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?

  • , I have never been aware of any ear problems, I will ask - it would be interesting.  The thing that really gets me, even know I can't seem to take it in and more so 'remember' the meaning.  I can't recall learning about verbs and noun's either - I would love to know all this, if I try to teach/learn myself it just doesn't seem to sink in and stay with me.

    Dearest Judith ( ).....

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    Sending love to all xxxx

    I'm hoping this makes sense - only my mind says one thing and my fingers type whatever they like x
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to WhatHappened

    Grammar - It is so very important to write correctly Hugging

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to WhatHappened

    Hi What happened

    You are a similar age to me. Our generation were never taught about verbs Tec. Personally that ment I couldn't learn French. How could I work out a French verb  when I didn't know what an English one was. Now ideas have completely reversed and grammar is pushed in the extreme in primary schools. As a result ,in my opinion, children can write complex sentences and do so at great length. This makes their stories and creative writing however strangled and boring. For years I have tried to encourage children to write with imagination , then redraft to put in the required grammar. But my voice was drowned by the SAT results. I often wonder if the popular and great authors can identify some of the things a nine year old can identify in a sentence. 

    Anyway, I'll get off my soap box.

    Have good day folks, it's going to be beautiful.

  • Margaret x

    One step at a time and ...Breathe !
    xoxox
    Margaret
  • Margaretx

    One step at a time and ...Breathe !
    xoxox
    Margaret
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    Well that means we are the best then 

    Xx

    One step at a time and ...Breathe !
    xoxox
    Margaret
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Northerner

    Judith xxx

    Hi Kissing cat. Thank you for Baxter’s lovely little message. He is a happy boy now he has you in his life Kissing catTwo hearts

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Judith xxx

  • Margaret x

    One step at a time and ...Breathe !
    xoxox
    Margaret
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Northerner

    Judith xxx