I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.
It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people
When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing. My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!
So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:
"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale. There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below. How would you feel stood there?"
I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.
Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?
That’s brilliant Ali
love and hugs Jenny xx
I've just had a good rib tickling giggle at your post and I am so stealing that one to add to my 'kill them with kindness' approach to life. My friends and family will so see me in your statement. I so resemble that remark
Thank you
So glad we have this thread
Leolady56 aka Lindsay
Life is like a boxing match, defeat is declared not when you fall ..... But when you refuse to stand up again ....... So, I get knocked down but I get up again. x
Grannylara, so true. We learn so much from our bad experiences, so that we can enjoy the good, and survive better the bad days.
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
Yes Moomy, I try to follow that all the time , both of them ! Xx
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
Without my struggle I would never have discovered my strength xxxxx best wishes Ali xx
“Look for something positive in each day, even if some days you have to look a little harder.”
love and hugs Jenny xx
I know Ali, it’s hard some days, and there are lots of those.
love and hugs Jenny xx
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