I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.
It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people
When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing. My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!
So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:
"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale. There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below. How would you feel stood there?"
I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.
Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?
“Fear has two meanings,
Forget Everything And Run
or
Face Everything And Rise.”
love and hugs Jenny xx
Just as the pieces of patchwork are sewn together with interlocking stitches,all the peoples of the world are linked in one fabric........x
My mission in life is not merely to survive but to thrive and to do so with some passion some compassion some humour and some style xxxx best wishes Ali xx
Wise words Ali, me too.
Love and hugs Jenny xxx
Wow, toxophilite, that is so true! xx
Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!
I like this thread @lesleyHelen...I agree with your statent about people said” so -and-so was okay eith cancer”  ..... gosh that shows such breathless ignorance.I think people don’t understand how different everubody is, the sude effects of meds, the worry about its’ return etc etc. I think I have been spoiled a bit as I have had wonderful sisters and old nurse friends around(who are trained in diversity of feelings about things).You just Cannot assume xxx
'Somewhere, someone is happy with less than you have.'
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Life is like a boxing match, defeat is declared not when you fall ..... But when you refuse to stand up again ....... So, I get knocked down but I get up again. x
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