Thought for the Day..

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I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.

It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people

When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing.  My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!

So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:

"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale.  There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below.  How would you feel stood there?" 

I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.

Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?

  • ....neded that this morning...was teaching my Reception class all about “The Light of the World”...

    ....I love that...I actually agree and think it is very profound and one of my favourite memes...

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    FormerMember in reply to Violetsniff

    Judith xxx

  • Love that xxx

    Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to seaspirit44

    Judith xxx

  • Owww this one is so true.... Lie down for people to walk on you.

    So very true.  

    Time for everyone to take a deep breath and do 'what is right for you'!! 

    Sending love and hugs to all xx

    I'm hoping this makes sense - only my mind says one thing and my fingers type whatever they like x
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    FormerMember in reply to WhatHappened

    Judith xxx

  • ...that should be on the wall in every Cancer Teams’ Office!!...and all of us should know that!!!how very tiring it just all is!!....anyway,mine for today is....bit sad,but sometimes how I have felt...

  • ....this is so lovely,it makes me cry a little bit....

    ”If”

    If you can keep your head when all about you
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
    If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
    But make allowance for their doubting too:
    If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
    Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
    Or being hated don't give way to hating,
    And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

    If you can dream- -and not make dreams your master;
    If you can think- -and not make thoughts your aim,
    If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
    And treat those two impostors just the same:.
    If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
    Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
    And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

    If you can make one heap of all your winnings
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
    And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
    And never breathe a word about your loss:
    If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,
    And so hold on when there is nothing in you
    Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on! '

    If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
    Or walk with Kings- -nor lose the common touch,
    If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
    If all men count with you, but none too much:
    If you can fill the unforgiving minute
    With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
    Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
    And- -which is more- -you'll be a Man, my son!

  •  I saw this today and thought of us all Heart