I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.
It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people
When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing. My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!
So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:
"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale. There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below. How would you feel stood there?"
I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.
Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?
,you should be a Counsellor,or someones Granny!!such kind words....
Judith xxx
Hi Violetsniff
Ooo to be a granny - but think I would have to knit a grandchild !!!
Both sons still batchelors ! I live in hope ! My brother became a dad at 50 ! Suppose with men their biological clock doesn’t tick so fast !
I have two loving sons , I know friends who’s sons and daughters have had marriage breakups and the grand parents don’t get to see the grandchildren - so cruel and sad for everyone .
We get to live our lives and if we choose to have children but we only get them on loan as they become adults and live their own lives , which actually means - job well done ! As mine are strong capable men and independent. They still phone mum and dad - and one is back for 3 years at uni !!!
just really want them to get partners , they have lots of friends .
We visited Sellafield once and they had a family display about atoms etc . One display is a white haired granny atom ( bit like a big M&M ) sitting in a rocking chair doing her knitting - that could be me !!i live in hope ! I now have the hair !!!
Problem with me - I can give advise - though I do try to ZIP IT!!
To I take my own??? !! 
? Not always - sometimes I need to give myself a slap !! But I do listen to others 
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Have a lovely day - I’m excited - it’s supposed to be windy and I want to line dry my sons bedding before he returns from visiting friends ! You can’t beat washing dried outside ! Ooo the exciting llife I live !!! 
love
Ruby Rose 
So agree,...and about drying washing outside,so rewarding.
My friend is in the same position as you re grandchildren,she really longs for them.
Anyway if I was younger I would ask you to be my Granny!!
so anyway...here is ...on a lighter note....a thouht for the day...sorry,not very profound..but very true nonetheless...
my today’s daily calm session ended with this.
Leolady56
Life is like a boxing match, defeat is declared not when you fall ..... But when you refuse to stand up again ....... So, I get knocked down but I get up again. x
Judith xxx
