I wondered if ladies might like a thread for a 'thought of the day' as something that has helped or is helping them through this journey.
It just occurred to me this morning in respect of the fear that comes along with being diagnosed with breast cancer and other people who haven't had it, but seem to think it's so easy ;) of something that I wish I had said to these people
When I was first diagnosed, I had a couple of close friends who had absolutely no understanding of the mental impact and said "oh such and such had that and they were fine" type thing. My worry about it and any need for support was forgotten as soon as they had said it!
So, my thought of the day for people who have no understanding:
"Imagine you are stood on a cliff edge in a gale. There is a 50% chance that a huge gust of wind will blow you over the cliff edge into the stormy sea below. How would you feel stood there?"
I think looking back, that this what I felt when diagnosed - the not knowing whether it would be ok or not and being told 'so and so was fine, blah, blah' was to me extremely annoying. But at the same time for someone who hasn't had cancer will try to come out with platitudes and can never really understand even if they want to- so this analogy would perhaps have helped them understand the fear that comes with being told you have cancer.
Anyone else have any 'thought for the day"?
On a lighter note....
So love these 'thoughts of the day'.
Thats a good one Violetsniff - 'Don't do that'
Lovely words Sunflower76 - I do can relate to this, from finding this Group of amazing people back in October 2017 - the people... "friends" on this site have given me more support than family and I will be forever grateful.
I can totally agree with you seaspirit44 does feel hard to put ourself first, I have been brought up to always put others first. Since BC, well actually not since BC, I would say twelve months following treatment and slowly getting myself back together - then having high blood readings for various things - this gave me the push that I need to 'look after me" - "to put me first" - whilst I still can and, yes, it is hard but I am doing it. Even getting out for my walk, I class this a 'doing this for me, me time'. Get this, tonight after my bath, I sat on the side of the bath and actually put foot cream on my feet - it felt lovely, but its something I never take time to do. I am going to 'try' to stay in this frame of mind, so the coming New Year is 'my' year - for 'me'. I will still care and love my family just as much, only I will (try) love me too. Come om Seaspirit44 lets start a new trend 
Sending you all love and hugs xxx
I've had to edit this.... Violetsniff - I so love the red shiny dots to turn Deer signs into Rudolph, it took me a while to get this and now I wished I'd seen this sooner, I'd be driving around looking for such signs hahahaha hahahah - love this xxxx
Judith xxx
