It seems I'm a patient now!

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But not a very patient one! 

I've at least got a diagnosis, it's invasive ductal cancer grade 2, but still small, oestrogen receptive but looks as if I might get away with the lymph nodes....and maybe not too much treatment afterwards? 

Complex plan, but to begin with, a sentinel node (plus another one or so) removal as day surgery, (a nuclear medicine visit first to get 'the jab' for them to trace) then a gap while that,  plus the HER result come back, then because of my previous surgeries for cysts and the fact one resulted in a massive haematoma, therefore scar tissue, I will have a complete mastectomy with an implant. That will be immediately after Easter. 

By finding out as much as possible beforehand, the surgeon hopes to prevent too many operations. Obviously I will then need Tamoxifen or similar, so will appreciate helpful advice about that. 

But I'd be interested on anyone's 'take' on her plan. I feel reassured that she took time with me, and the BC nurse afterwards spent a good while too. 

Hugs xxx

  • , not posted for a while but have seen ups and downs you are going through, sending all the love and hugs in the world, you are such a strength for us all so hope our good wishes lift you a little bit xx Heart️

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  • Sending more love and hugs . It is so hard for you xxx

    Onwards and flatwards (don't do hills) and keep walking if you can!

  • Sent with love.....( ..I wish it could be real not virtual)

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  • Bless you all, I think ive wept a bucketful today

    Hugs xxx

    Moomy

  • Thinking of you sending hugs xx

  • Is there something in particular that's upsetting you or just the entire situation?  xx

  • It’s his sleepiness plus the obvious dreams in which he’s trying to do something while snoring in the armchair. And whenever I say anything I’m wrong. I told him I’m so despairing of being carer and nurse rather than his wife, I cried but he didn’t even try to comfort me as he would have normally. 
    He’s obviously seeing things that aren’t there in his sleepy state, sometimes reaching for them, and it’s so distressing to watch

    Hugs xxx

    Moomy

  • I don't know if you've used Tiktok - loads of short videos max of 3 minutes long.  Cover everything from cleaning, mishaps, family issues etc. but sometimes comes up on my feed is hospice nurse.  I find it quite insightful.  I remember , even though  it was 33 years ago, my mother doing the picking at something when she was in bed,  It was like she had a bit of hair on her forehead or fluff on bed clothes.  One of the videos gave an explanation why which I found comforting even all these years later .  Tiktok also great for making me laugh out loud when I need to de-stress.  xx

  • Hi 

    no ive never joined tiktok, feel a bit too ancient to do that! But yes I guess there are explanations about the half-awake state (hubs really isn’t sleeping properly, partly because he’s always asleep or trying to be!) and seeing things. 

    I just cried saying I’ve been rotten and for the first time, he reached out to comfort me, made me cry even more (now as well!) But we did have a short heart to heart. 

    oh it’s been a sh***y day, hope tomorrow will be easier. 

    Hugs xxx

    Moomy

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