The operation

Just a quick one before I go to bed as got work in the morning (last day until who knows when, coupe of days leave next week them I shall oficially start sick leave). 

Jackie sounds like your oncologist is very measured and giving you sound advice without rushing into chemo. Good that there is a quicker option too. It's such a hard decision and I know the wait for result will be annoying. By BCN mentioned that I will likely end up with DX test but that's making big assumption that nodes are clear...see what surgery results bring for me. Hope you've got nice things to do o er the coming weeks to make days go faster.

Ooh and microblading sounds fab...thinking of following your lead on that one if you don't mind me copying ha ha!

Lindsay if you don't mind I won't copy you on the knickers in trousers front although my mind is so scary right now I wouldn't be surprised!

Right better get some sleep...breast cancer is not going to.keep me awake tonight I have a much more pressing issue to stress over. Bloody school slipped a note our way today casually mention could us parents provide a bloomin Xmas play costume by next week!!! I was feeling smug cos we'd got on top of homework, science project and script learning (she's 7 btw!) now it's a trip to town at weekend....

Sleep well everyone.

Jammy – I hate it when schools drop things like that on you last minute, been there many times, and far worse when you’ve got enough added rubbish to deal with already.

Jacks – Agree with Jammy re your oncologist. She sounds nice and practical in terms of dealing with the options of chemo or not even if at the moment it means more waiting to find out which way you need to go. I think I’d be the same and opt for the shorter option too, especially if Bali was calling. Whatever happens you’ll pick the right options for you, and that’s all that matters.

No they did not give me another appoint, they’ll discuss me at their MDT meeting and if in the course of that they decide that I may warrant further treatment then they’ll get in touch. Which I think is worse in a way than waiting to find out results or something that you know you will find out, as you don’t know if you’ll hear anything or not.

DH annoyed me a bit last night (it’s been building), he keeps asking when I think I’d be good to go back to work, I suspect his mind is on the sooner I’m back, the sooner he can stop having to deal with all the stuff I juggle with at home on a daily basis, which was evident on Weds that he can’t fully cope with the onslaught on your time and mental capacities to deal with several things at once as soon as you walk in the door.

I might feel up to working mentally and am getting their physically (I work in an office), but until I can drive it’s a no no anyway.

So how long do I go with the ‘I can’t do anything’ housework wise for. Personally I think it’s about time he picked up the slack more anyway, and he might realise what I do actually do, but on the other hand I’m getting annoyed that stuff isn’t being done.

And I do appreciate that the whole thing is probably tough on him as he’s not going through it himself and he’s rubbish at medical stuff anyway, and he probably feels slightly helpless, but he could ask questions, he could read the leaflets on my BC that I’ve brought home over the weeks to understand exactly what is what. He did ask how appoint went yesterday and I told him what’s what, and then it’s the old when you going back to work chestnut.

Apologies, I had in no way meant my post to become so lengthy and ranty at the end, but I guess it’s better out than in, and once I started typing it just flowed.

Feel free to read then ignore, I wouldn’t blame you

Signing off to go and ‘improve my bust’ and lose myself in a book

JG

JG

Jacks

Blimey microblading! I had you roller blades/ ice skates down your local high street. With a Groucho cigar of course . 

Not heard of that one. But will be checking it out at my local beauty salon

I get them tinted and plucked as eyesight now weak.

This time I’m going with whatever they suggest I didn’t 2 years ago and so I’m here again. Go for belt and braces . Maybe braces for my knickers next time. Mmmmm

Well Tesco calls and getting dressed. Think I’m sealed into my dressing gown some days

Have a good one lovelies

Leolady aka Lindsay

Morning ladies

Yes I think I’ve got a good oncologist, straight talking and that’s what I need. To be honest I’ve processed and accepted that I may need chemo so I won’t be as worried when I see her in a fortnight. If it’s a yes then I’m going to ask to start it immediately after xmas. It states on sites that chemo has the best results within 60 days of surgery. Well that sort of gives me to the 7th of Jan. I’m going to Disney on ice with my little granddaughters and I want a family xmas without feeling crap. 

JG I cannot believe that they will just let you know IF you need further treatment. Look none of us want more appointments and treatment but what we do want is to know!! It’s wrong, when do you stop checking the post, 1 week, 2, 4, no, you should know either way. Have you got a dedicated BCN, ask her to help. Is it normal after what you’ve had done and your type of cancer to have chemo or radiotherapy, have you asked on here or checked on other sites?

As to housework and going back to work. My view is do it when YOU’RE ready. If financially you are able to stay home and there’s no threat of losing your job then why on earth wouldn’t you. Having pressure put on you at a time like this is the last thing you need. 

Ermmm I’m seriously houseproud but I’m sitting in my pjs still and so what if I am lol. I was told no hoovering, ironing or lifting for at least 6 weeks. 

I make the bed, put any washing on, tumble it (can’t be bothered to hang it out) chuck some bleach down the loos, use my Gtech battery sweeper and wipe surfaces in kitchen after I’ve used them. I’ve said to my other half that he needs to do some ironing at the weekend and he’s better at it than me and that’s it my jobs are done. I’m not bothered, too much else going on to worry about letting my standards drop lol. 

Relax and stop worrying please. 

You can post anything you want on here, rant or not because WE ARE listening to you. 

Anyway think I might make a coffee and finally watch last weeks Strictly and get dressed afterwards.   

Sending hugs to you all Jackie xxxxx

Hi Joanne

Just to say the microblading honestly doesn’t hurt. My eyebrows were throbbing a little bit when she had finished and within an hour they were back to normal. I have to go for a top up in 3 weeks and that’s it for a year to 18months. As I said no hair is one thing but I couldn’t be bothered to pencil on eyebrows every day if I had lost them. 

Do a bit of research locally and just maybe go for a free consultation. 

Hope you’re having a good day

Jackie xx

Hi LL

Its not a new thing but it’s not as harsh as tattooing. It’s semi permanent and pain free (well for me anyway). 

I just think it is easier than pencilling and even if I don’t lose my eyebrows it saves me time to do better things. 

Yeah I have mine waxed and tinted but the tint is gone before my next appt is due. In the long run it will save me money and maybe my dignity as wont need the Groucho stick on ones   

Haha you and your knickers still making me laugh out loud. 

Have fun in Tescos xxxxxx

Dnot want to appear rude by junping in , i have to , i have to say you lot are bonkers iv laughed so much iv neatly wet me cen. Your an inspiration you trully are. 

Keep smiling. X

Hi mrsox 

Feel free to join us on this mad journey. 

Wet knickers are the order of the day especially when Leolady is having another moment. 

Tell us all a bit about yourself too x

I travelled all the way to Florida with knickers gently creeping down my leg.  Didn't realise until I got to the final airport when I noticed a bulge in my tight jeans.  Did it again during the holiday with a pair of shorts, luckily wasn't out in public when they decided to make an appearance.

Debs xxxx