AWAKE.........

Hi Anne, I totally agree with Sal; reconstruction is a very personal choice and scary when you have already been through so much, both physically and mentally. No-one can tell you what you should do. Both of my sisters in law opted to not go for reconstruction, but God help them if they tried to dissuade me! I know that when they do my surgery I will want reconstruction straight away, but it is my choice. Only you know how you feel and what you need. What I would say is that you need to play the guilt card with them and tell them that they don't know how you feel and what they would do! They have not been through this and they need to keep their opinions to themselves and support whatever decisions you make.

Hi Sal,yes they can be an insensitive lot at times I agree.in their defence though last year they asked if I wanted photos sent and I said I really wasn't bothered so I guess they thought it was ok this time to.i have tried to explain how I feel about having no boob for over a year and wanting to have the op.shame I had complications and it's going to take even longer now but that's just one of those things.when I had my mastectomy they were all round with flowers chocs etc.this time hardly anyone has been near other than a couple of 'proper' friends.i think they think I've had some minor procedure and am making a fuss about nothing when actually I have found recovering from this much more painful and difficult than the mastectomy.thanks for always listening and letting us have a good rant on here

Thanks Jodec,people like you and Sal are much better caring human beings than my so called friends.can all you wonderful ladies please move to Manchester and be my 'breast ' buddies

It is a shame that we are all so far away! It would be lovely to meet up.

I have my wig!!! First time wearing it! It is not the most comfortable thing to wear, but at least I look like me, xxx

JoDec you look beautiful 

Love

Val

Anne, sadly I'm not near Manchester but will always be here when you need me! I found this and thought it was perfect......

I have met some amazing people on this site. Some of them I have been lucky enough to meet in person, some I text daily some I message daily and others I just talk to on posts. But each and every one of them is special to me in some way or another!

Wishing all my Online Friends a lovely weekend!

Sal xxxxxx

Jo, that wig looks amazing, you beautiful lady! Xxxx 

Jo Jo you look lovely .my wig was nowhere near as nice.i found it very itchy and felt as though it was obvious to everyone what it was so I only wore it when visiting my mum as she was developing dementia and in  hospital with  a broken leg when I lost my hair.dad was in another hospital with a broken hip and I pretended I had minor surgery for something else but when I needed chemo I had to tell him as he was getting suspicious.he was 93 then,94 now and had never been in hospital in his life until then bless him.if I ever had to wear a wig again I would definitely buy a decent one and not use my NHS one.yesterday I had my chemo curls cut again.i had a big curly mop,think clown hair.back to short and wavy until the curls break through again.my mum will be disappointed when I visit the home later.she's been commenting on my 'lovely curly perm' for weeks bless her 

Enjoy your lovely hair and go and show it off 

Anne

You look amazing Jo.  if i look half as good as you when my chemo starts ill be more than happy (got my wig yesterday and i HATE it - £235 wasted, looks cheap, looks like a wig and ive decided its too short!  Oh well off shopping for another one next week

Karen xxx

Hi

Thought I would jump in, I bought a wig from Christies one of there feather premier collection after wearing for half hour my head was in so much pain had to stop wearing it. Found a hairdressers in Whitefield Manchester that sells & fits wigs along with cutting and styling. Purchased another wig which looks and feels fantastic. The shop is called Saeta Hairdressing &Wigs they have private room & are very friendly and professional. 

I do not feel like I have a wig on it as made such a difference.

Gracie G xxx

JoDec You look AMAZING!! It really suits you!

xx