AWAKE.........

, so pleased you have avoided hotel BHS and the Manflu and that your chemo is proceeding on the same lower dose. Glad you enjoyed the ballet . Xxxxx

Another non cancer related one.

I will be shooting at Lilleshall near Telford a couple of times next year, which is a bit of a journey for me. 

I wondered whether anyone (or knows of anyone) could put me up? It would be Friday PM to Monday AM, the first one being first weekend in June.

TIA

LondonLass .. That’s the pits....agree with the others ... leave when you want so as to retain some control. Remember, you have been doing this job for some time so you’re obviously good at it... believe in yourself. Sending hugs.

... so glad to see you’ve been enjoying the ballet ... and that chemo dose seems to be right for you.

toxophilite... sorry, not near Telford

hugs to all

xx

Sal LondonLass you will not be out of work for two minutes. The biggest problem working  people have is finding childcare.

You will be snapped up doesn't matter about the secondaries, walking stick, working part time being knackered etc you will be SNAPPED UP 

Also obviously you leave when you have found a lovely new job and b@lls to their arrangements xxx

Also....don't ever give up ( if you don't I wont) xxx

Couldn't have said it better Helen Snowys Mum!!!

Hello Sal LondonLass,

Please don't be so hard on yourself, I will admit when you posted about the asking you to 'do more hours' - I could sense there was more into this!!  I believe they knew you would not be able to do more hours hence them asking the question, which then plays very nicely into their plans, you saying you can't - they can then say it doesn't suit them.  

Plus given that when the new baby arrives (I'm thinking) they will be about more.  Please, please don't take this personal, it really isn't about you 'it is them' - I know it ultimately affects you, but it's not to do with your work.  

So.... things happen for a reason, at present we can't see the reason - the reason will show up when its meant to.  

In the meantime.... consider you have just been given a lovely Christmas, you now have a whole new course of events that will follow this, yes you will worry... if you look at it this way or you can look at it 'you have been given freedom' - maybe even take a few weeks break from working altogether - April can be a nice time of the year.  

Just remember 'it is there loss' - you take this news and embrace it, enjoy Christmas knowing you have had this talk and its not hanging over your head.  Deep breaths and enjoy each day.  Love and Big Hugs xxxxx 

toxophilite

Hi Karen

I live in Worcester which is not too far from Telford. I have 2 spare rooms so could put you up with pleasure.

Someone nearer may be in touch so I won't be upset if you have a better offer.

Love

Sue xxx

Hi LondonLass 

when I was a childminder I was self employed - is it the same fior Nannies? 

Ruby Rose  

Just wanted to say THANK YOU........

I feel honoured to be able to call all you lovely, supportive and loving Ladies My Friends. I wouldn't of got through today without the love and support both on here and via my mobile. 

As days go today was pretty CRAP! I know a few of you have tried to pull out the positives and maybe in a few days/weeks I will re-read them and see those positives too. However right now I just feel so sad and fed up! No I feel angry. Not because they want to replace me, as I knew that was probably going to happen. I'm angry at the way he said it, so matter of fact and that he chose today, well yesterday now, to do it! He ruined my last day at work having fun with little one! 

Think the biggest joke of the day was the Christmas card that she had written, with a note saying how much they loved me and they thought of me as part of their family??? REALLY? Is that how they treat family!

Anyway later today I head off to London for 2 days. On Friday I take the children I used to look after to Winterwonderland. They are Aparantly looking forward to seeing me. I am super excited at seeing them! Although I know it will be emotional and as I'm already emotional I might need to take extra tissues and keep you Fruit Loops close by! I know going back there will remind me of when I worked there, happy times....until the Cancer hit! Little did I know that over 5 years on I would still be dealing with this!!

Ruby Rose, unlike childminders, nannies are employed by the family they work for. Xxx

wishing you all a Good Night Sleep

Sweet Dreams xxxxxxxx

Dear LondonLass....there are some lovely answers here and I ,for one,tend to agree with the notion of maybe finding a Nursery or an institutuion to work for,as one or two have said,and to leave only when you have another job secure,and perhaps a written testimonial.That is old-fashioned now,I suppose,but your employers must think well of you and can draw out your unique positive contributions.That is the least they can do for you....

I would fight the temptation to be “bloody-minded” with them....try and stay sweet.a)cos you don’t know how much longer upto 4 months you still have to live with them,and b)becuase in the end it will come out nicer on their thoughts of you,should future employers ring them up for a reference.

I only know this because when I did private nursing,over 7 years,I had to work for about 5 different employers,and these things do matter.

I also know how very vulnerable you are being employed by private families and individuals,and have experienced both ends of the spectrum...from generous and appreciative,to downright taking me completely for granted and lying about paying my NIC etc.you are in a vulnerable position.That was why in the end I went back to the NHS.I missed my colleagues and also the relative security of terms and conditions.

You obviously have a big heart and love the children in your care.Also lots of experience.

Xxxxx