Does anyone else dislike the Macmillan Brave the Shave campaign?

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Good evening everyone

I have seen two Macmillan TV adverts this evening, as well as lots of adverts on their Facebook site - and this website - for Brave the Shave,

This is encouraging people to raise money for people affected by cancer by shaving their head - it has fostered a climate where people think it is showing support to people who have lost their hair by doing this too.

Even my own daughters offered to shave their heads when they knew I was to have chemo and lose my hair - talk about brainwashing!

I can't think of anything that would have made me more upset than to see them lose their hair too.

I have pretty much powered my way through 8 cycles of DC and had every side effect it could throw at me, one stay of a week in hospital, and four times they called me in because of various things, two bad reactions in the chair - but the one thing that reduced me to tears wasn't being told I had cancer, it was being told I would lose all my hair in the second week of the first cycle.

And I don't need to tell any of you how hateful I found having huge handfuls come out in the shower (and I had short hair so hadn't thought it would be so horrid).

And then your eyebrows and eyelashes go - and your femininity feels like it's being stripped away bit by bit.

Frankly I find people who say they will get their head shaved as support, and that say they do it to "share" our experience haven't a clue! They might choose this, we haven't chosen it - and wouldn't.

It may sound over the top to some of you, but I find this whole campaign offensive, insensitive and patronising - particularly seeing people smile while having their head shaved, and people cheering. I didn't smile, and my daughter and husband didn't feel like cheering when they shaved my head.

Ok I'm cool with my look now - the very shiny head (not a short razor clipped look) - but I would prefer not to have had to experience any of this.

If you agree - please let me know.

I have messaged Macmillan previously and never even had a response. I've commented on Facebook under their posts in the past urging people to find fun ways to raise money (and there are so many) and not to do this for me.........and there is always a huge response in terms of "likes" and comments from people in our reluctant community.

If people are with me - maybe we can convince Macmillan to stop this barbaric approach to fund raising. Either like this post or put a comment of support please - if you don't agree, that's fine, no need to do anything!

Well - that's my rant over - you might have noticed I feel a tad passionate about this!

  • I don't think anyone should shave their hair for charity, and acknowledge this campaign has upset a lot of people here. I commented to that effect last year. However, I haven't and don't intend to engage further as I'm in Australia and of course haven't seen any of the ads, so I think it would by hypocritical of me to criticise something I can't possibly really know about. 

    I'm only posting now because of the comment about community champions not getting engaged. TBH this upset me a bit as I don't think on this issue we are any different to other members of the community - people who have/had cancer or cared for someone who has. We have our various opinions on issues but like everyone choose to comment or not comment depending on the issue. Our role is to help people of the community not to herd sheep. 

    Lynn xx 

  • Hi Lynn

    I've already expressed that I feel criticising the champions is unfair - it's not your role, and you all do a wonderful job supporting us all.

    I hope the comment was made without thinking and gets withdrawn.

    I don't think it will be something many agree with.

    Keep up your excellent work.

    Judy xx

    "Those who don't believe in magic will never find it" Roald Dahl

  • Thanks Judy

    Lynn xx 

  • Sophie236 said:

    Tried to submit a complaint, but got a '404' error message ...

      browser issue ?

     real life success stories to remind you that people do survive breast cancer

    https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_types/breast-cancer/f/38/t/115457

    Dr Peter Harvey

    https://www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2013/03/After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

     

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Carolyn28

    GHD (the hair straightener company) is running a #choptoyourchin campaign with Breast Cancer Now. Funds raised go to the charity, and long hair chopped off is donated to The Little Princess Trust who make natural hair wigs for children.

    I love the positivity of this. No mention of being "brave" in the campaign (a word I know has irked many of us) but one which will genuinely help those affected by cancer (or any other hair loss inducing illness), as well as raising awareness and funds for breast cancer and its research.


    Macmillan should take note! 


    https://www.ghdhair.com/pink


  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Carolyn28

    Hi /all,

    I'm sorry to hear that some are experiencing issues submitting complaints via the online form. I've just test sent one and it worked (on Chrome). If you experience problems or are shown a 404 message, please try again or try sending one from a different browser.

    If you continue to experience issues, please do get in touch with us (community@macmillan.org.uk) and we can help.

    Best wishes,

    Jazmine

  • Don't think so - I tried three different browsers  :-(

    1. Sophie X

    "Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first, and the lesson afterward."

    - Oscar Wilde

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Sophie236

    Hi ,

    I'm going to send you an email about this issue. Keep an eye on your personal email inbox.

    Best wishes,

    Jazmine

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Clump

    Hi Clump Have you got a link to that thread please? just so I can understand what this is about as I don't want to comment on something I have not seen or understand. 

  • Just filled in the complaint form, ending with 'Please DO NOT simply send me your standard reply as I received that last year'. I'm not holding my breath, though.