Hi everyone, I'm new to the forum. 3 years ago my husband was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer. He had Chemo before and after major surgery. Unfortunately it has spread to his brain. The tumour was moved but the cancer is still progressing.. They have told me he only has a few months to live but he doesn't know. He's got cognitive impairment from the surgery so he's not really taking anything and has poor concentration. I am driving 72 miles to where he's in hospital. I keep getting different info on what's going to happen next. I am on my own in a rural location and I'm struggling with everything. We are retired and do everything together, he is a lovely, kind and intelligent man and its heart-breaking 
Hi Little Min266d44
a warm welcome to the community. So sorry to hear about all that's going on. Life's too cruel for words at times.
My personal experience lies in supporting my late husband through the 3 years of his stage 4 primary brain tumour so a different set of circumstances but I can empathise with the journey you are on here. G suffered some cognitive impairment due to the impact of his tumour so I get the challenges that that brings. I've taken the liberty of looking up some generic secondary brain cancer info for you but your husband's medical team are the ones who are best placed to give you more exact details. Here's the link What is secondary brain cancer? | Macmillan Cancer Support
The sounds like an arduous drive to the hospital for you. Rural life is great until you need something that's not available close at hand.
It's ok to feel as though you are struggling. You have had a lot to process and it sounds as though you are coping with a lot. Any brain tumour journey is an emotional roller coaster ride for all involved so please don't be too hard on yourself here.
This is a safe and supportive space so please reach out here anytime. There's always someone about to listen who gets it, someone to hold your hand and someone to offer a virtual hug when its needed. You're not alone. We've got you. I personally drew a lot of support from this community and also Cancer carers forum | Macmillan Online Community during G's journey.
It’s always good to talk so please remember that you can also call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service provides lots of cancer information, emotional support, benefit and financial guidance or just a listening ear.
For now though I'm sending you a huge virtual hug and lots of strength.
love n hugs
Wee Me xx
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