Marriage & brain tumour

Dear Kaydey23 ... I didn't want your question to go unanswered, but I can't claim to have any solutions really. I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time.

I guess it might help to separate the various elements and deal with them individually? So, if there's any way to gather support around you, so that you feel less isolated; whether your daughter going to her granny is really helping you; if there are any support groups your health team can help you access and so on. I think that health worries can put a big strain on relationships, and it might be that your husband is having a hard time dealing with his feelings or worries? I know you've already tried counselling, but it might help if you could both talk about what you're going through - to each other, or to a friend/family member or to a professional of some kind. The Macmillan helpline might be able to lend a listening ear, and I imagine that the stresses and strains of illness on family life is a topic that comes up quite often.

When my husband was ill a few people did things that I thought were insensitive at best, and it really upset me. My mother pointed out that 'they meant well', which was probably true. People found it very hard to deal with my feelings, and with their own. Sometimes they said things that were extremely unhelpful, and sometimes they just stayed out of the way because it was all a bit too much for them. The good news is that once the crisis point was past, we were able to forgive one another and move forward.

I do hope your chemotherapy goes OK and that you get the support you need to deal with it. Best of luck, and a big virtual hug.

Hi KD

Have a look at our past posts?

POVs & how we’ve (just about) stayed together.

Totally understand how you’re feeling. It’s pants but we’re 7 years into a grade 3 & lots to share. Private Messages if you’d prefer??

All the love,  L & V