Had fantastic news after my husbands op last Monday they got all the tumour out he came home Thursday but finding it all abit over whelming he is very confused and not making sense and my 20 year old doesn’t want to be around because he isn’t himself it’s early days I no I just hope he improves after such an amazing outcome
Hi Glo
sounds like all went really well with your husband's op. Confusion in the early days is normal. It should settle as the healing process/recovery process from surgery kicks in. Keep an eye on things though and if you feel its not improving please reach out to your medical team.
I remember being terrified the day we brought my husband home after his op. He was SO confused and making very little sense. I was scared that this was what life was going to be like from there on it but it passed and he became more coherent. It's hard for kids to see a parent that they are use to seeing as so string suddenly appear vulnerable. My kids were 20 and 22 when their dad had their op and it has been a huge amount for them to take on board and process. I hope your 20 year-old comes round. Give them space.
There's a lot of great information on the main website that might be a help over the coming days/weeks. Here's the link Supporting someone | Macmillan Cancer Support Please also remember you can reach out to the helpline too. The number is below.
Take things one step at a time. It's a lot for you to process too and it takes time.
Sending you a huge hug and lots of positive energy. Stay strong. Be patient.
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Thank you so much makes me feel a lot better that it’s usual for him and me to react how we have it’s only been 4 days since he has been home so I’m sure there will be an improvement like you said it’s a shock at first and a lot to take in I have to think of the positive that this operation was a success thank you again xx
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