In March 2024 my wife was diagnosed with right side bowel cancer it was explained that it was about 20ceter meters and that with a operation can be removed and everything should be fine , but because of her COPD & Asthma they can’t operate after seeing another specialist and a few other people of the medical team she was called back on the 4th July and informed that they were discharging her because they had no treatment for her , my wife asked how long her life expectancy would be,and that in the surgeons words ! Let’s put it this way you will not be here this time next year , my wife has gone past the 12 months it’s now 18 months she is not so mobile but she was not that mobile before the diagnosis she had had 2 lots of blood the ast lot was only about 5 days ago she sleeps most of the day ,she has pain in her back which is also very itchy, because of the blood transfusions I was wondering if this is the start of the end , the blood nurse asked her GP to make a visit because of her chest, while she made the visit she said if she had any other symptoms not to phone the GP practice but to phone woodlands house who are the palliative care team for our location. So I’m confused I would just like to know if this is the start of the end of my wife’s life I understand that it may be a long time and I’m praying that it is or could it be a short period Im not only her loving husband Im also her full time caregiver, Im not sleeping much because I am worried I would like to know what type of right side bowel cancer my wife as and at what stage it’s at , because shortly after her diagnosis they put a DNR in place and Im also worried that we both have a joint bank account but we also have a savings account but the savings account is only in my wife’s name ,she has tried to put my name on the savings account but they say she will need to go to a bank which is not at all possible.she was thinking to transfer the funds to our joint account and only she can do it , but when I ask my wife to sort it out she says why am I going to die soon : and that she will do it when she feels like she is dying. It’s so hard to watch her when you don’t really know what type of cancer she has or what stage the cancer is at and they will not do anything to investigate her because she was given less then 12 months of life and she has a DNR in place sometimes she feels she has been forgotten, the other problem I have when anyone medical staff or family ask her how she is it’s always Im fine .
