New here need help

Hi. So sorry to hear what you're going through. I was also diagnosed with bowell cancer at stage 4 with spreads to liver and lungs. Classed as not operable, given months to live etc......  not that it's much comfort, but you're not alone. When he can get out of bed, just fill your time with hugs and love. 

You never know how well he might react to chemo. Everyone reacts differently to chemo, but personally, it was nowhere near as bad as I expected. It just didn't work for me. I'm now on Lonsurf to "slow it down" 

Get through the next minute, the next hour, and deal with it one day at a time. 

I don't have children so I can only imagine. 

Try reaching out to your local Hospice and Macmillan centres. I was scared of reaching out to my hospice, but it's actually a really positive place and has groups on all week designed around a safe space for you to take part on activities together and be around others that you can share your thoughts and feelings with. 

I've met inspirational people at hospice groups that have gone on to live happy lives after 10+ years at stage 4

Wish you all the very best 

Really sorry.

Please make sure that your daughter's school is told, as they can provide support if needed. 

(((Hugs)))

Thanks. I told the school before we told her and they have arranged a councillor for her. They have been wonderful and supportive thank God. X

I think it's more the shock. He had a yearly checkup not 6 months ago and was fine but in 6 weeks he's lost over 20kg in weight and is in constant pain. I feel useless because I can't help him and due to my own medical issues and mobility problems I'm struggling to keep up with the housework alone.