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Chell 11 hours ago

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Hi. Just found out hubby has cancer. Bowl,liver and lungs. Doctors says he will start cemo but it will only slow it down. He was fine 3 months ago. Had his yearly check up and a work health check but the last 4 weeks he can barely get out of bed. It's hit so fast and now our soon to be 7 year old is asking questions. How do I tell her her daddy's going to die? I'm not sure I'm strong enough to help them. My world just fallen apart

Neilio57 8 hours ago

Hi. So sorry to hear what you're going through. I was also diagnosed with bowell cancer at stage 4 with spreads to liver and lungs. Classed as not operable, given months to live etc...... not that it's much comfort, but you're not alone. When he can get out of bed, just fill your time with hugs and love.

You never know how well he might react to chemo. Everyone reacts differently to chemo, but personally, it was nowhere near as bad as I expected. It just didn't work for me. I'm now on Lonsurf to "slow it down"

Get through the next minute, the next hour, and deal with it one day at a time.

I don't have children so I can only imagine.

Try reaching out to your local Hospice and Macmillan centres. I was scared of reaching out to my hospice, but it's actually a really positive place and has groups on all week designed around a safe space for you to take part on activities together and be around others that you can share your thoughts and feelings with.

I've met inspirational people at hospice groups that have gone on to live happy lives after 10+ years at stage 4

Wish you all the very best