My Dad

I'm sorry to hear about your dad. We lost my mother-in-law last week to colon cancer that we decided not to treat. She has advanced Alzheimer's and was unable to understand the treatment. So we made her as comfortable as possible. 

Her cancer was quite advanced and she had alot of bleeding at discovery. 

Know that colon cancer is typically very slow growing. They may be able to keep him comfortable and alive until something else kills him. Enjoy this time with him. 

The best support you can give is just to be there. Help with transport if needed, give your mother and sister breaks if he is housebound. Run an errand. It's the little things that add up. 

Thank you for reaching out . I am so sorry for your loss and appreciate you offering support so soon after . I will take on board all that advice as clearly those things helped for you and I think they will help me. They have decided not to do a colonoscopy as they think that would be too much and he is asymptomatic at the moment . So this means we will be taking the family trip to Cornwall without any complications which may have come from the procedure. Mum has spoken to the McMillan contact who thinks this is just what we need and I agree some quality time in a beautiful place and she has reminded us that fish and chips and ice cream all comply with his low fibre diet ….

Thank you so much .

I have just read your story and I wanted to say you are an inspiration. Your cancer journey is longer and harder than my dads will be his age will see to that like you said he will most likely die of something other than the cancer itself . The fact that even though you are on your own uncertain and frightening journey you can still offer kindness and advice is incredible. Thanks again for reaching out. 

Thank you. It is a gift to me to be able to help. It is the only way I make sense of my own journey.