Hello,
At Christmas my son of 43 was diagnosed with colorectal cancer stage 4 and given a bleak prognosis. He has 2 girls of 1 and 3. Although I am doing everything I can to help with childcare/cooking/ etc I find my strength is very low ( I'm 71) and I struggle with everyday life.
Does anyone have a helpful suggestion as to how I deal with this? I call it ' anticipatory grief' in losing my son, he's still here but sort of not here, in an out of chemotherapy etc.?
Hi Sadmom
Welcome to the forum . Was just this Christmas 2023 he was diagnosed? I found the first year of my mum’s diagnosis the worst . You are so correct . You grieve whilst they are still here .
Do you know how he is responding to treatment yet ?
Take care ,
Court
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