Hello!
My ex husband has stage 4 colon cancer. We have 2 young children together and have a good working relationship. He is currently on maintenance chemotherapy and seems to be doing ok overall. The exception is that he is drinking heavily. I'm concerned about how to address this with him and also protect the emotional well being of our children. Any and all advise is appreciated.
HiGinny W
Welcome to the forum . It’s great you are so caring and able to keep a good relationship with your ex but also completely understandable that you have to consider the environment your children are exposed to .
Our helpline staff have lots of resources and might be able to chat through how to best approach this .
https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/treatment/chemotherapy/living-with/social-life-activities
As you can see a small amount of alcohol is not of any great concern but they do recommend not over indulging for obvious reasons .
Sometimes people need a bit more support during chemo and treatment . Macmillan has teamed up with Bupa to offer patients six free counselling sessions . This might be possible to do remotely if he would be more comfortable. But worthwhile giving Macmillan a call . It’s not an easy process for sure and finding helpful coping mechanisms essential .
We are also here for you . Not always easy navigating these tricky situations .
Take care ,
Court
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