Hi all , my first post. My Dad has terminal bowel cancer, diagnosed Feb 2022. he is 88, many other health issues, heart failure, Kidney Failure, diabetes, liver cirrhosis. It is terminal as he isn’t strong enough for any treatment. He still lives at home.on his own, I do the care for him . Was suggested he needs a blood transfusion, spent all day in hospital and then decided they wouldn’t do this . Discharge letter says “ he is likely to deteriorate further in the coming weeks . His demise might not be directly from the cancer “
He is amazing, lives alone, with my full support, no other support, my question is - I work full time, just had 2 weeks signed off by GP, 4 weeks signed off during the diagnosis . I am back to work on Monday, I know I can easily get signed off as my GP is Dads GP. I know I will need time off when the time comes , but I have this worry what should I do - ask for unpaid leave or just ask the GP to sign me off, I actually feel guilty being signed off as I’m not with Dad full time, so have time in the day for myself, I go about 5 times a day, he is very independent and doesn’t want fussing, I actually feel guilty being signed off. I work for the Civil Service but my boss is so new and all he says “ - so how do you think you will be when your sick note runs out” bit shocking really. Money isn’t coming into my thoughts, he is my Dad and means the world to me, it’s been me and him since my Mum passed away over 17 years ago. as now I’m writing this I actually feel real silly. Should I get signed off as my Gp will support me or just now ask for unpaid leave. He is a fighter, I guess I’m asking for someone to tell me what to do.
Sorry this post is probably really strange and people might just say - get signed off - take unpaid leave. Just asking if anyone has experienced something similar, I am a worrier so being signed off worries me as when I’m not with Dad I’m doing things for me and then I feel really guilty for being off work.
