Mother in law

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi, I've nursed both my parents through cancer and they both died at home. Now my lovely Mother in law is in the last weeks of life. Her 82 yo husband is caring for her at home and her 2 sons (1 is my husband) live 15 miles away....they seem in denial and unwilling to pop over and actually help out unless dad asks...which he doesn't. I feel like we should now be on a schedule to not only help with her care but look out for dad too. I don't want to step on anybody's toes but I'm close to my MIL and hate the thought of her not having us around. I'm not convinced she's had a good wash for days as there no carers as such. What would you advise? I don't want to upset anybody....

court over 4 years ago

Welcome to the forum . It’s a difficult situation for you and given your experience I would imagine you have insight into what is required.
It’s really lovely that you care and clearly have her best interests at heart .

Could you go on your own to get a better idea what’s required ? If she has care needs it might be a good idea to consider an assessment of her needs to assist your father in law . Particularly if your husband and brother in law are currently in a form of denial . You might want to phone our helpline to find out how to go about that in your area . 0808 808 0000. It might be an idea to find out where and how to access services even if it’s for a later date . Sometimes a Gp can get things moving in that area .

But I agree you are right in that it needs to be approached in a productive way .

Take care ,

Court

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