My sister is only 40 years young but has recently been diagnosed with stage 3 rectal cancer. She has had a week of radiotherapy and is about to start chemo next week. She has roughly 3 months of chemo followed by ELAPE (APR) with a permanent stoma and a barbie bum. I don't think the reality has really hit home but I want to try and support her as much as possible.
Can anyone suggest what support they found really helpful? Is there anything that I can do or say to make any of it just a tiny bit bearable?
I love her so much and I'm really scared for her.
Hi Big_sister
Firstly I'd say your sister is incredibly fortunate to have your love and support.
I'd suggest trying to help her look for positive solutions and attitudes for each challenge once they rise. Try not to worry about what ifs and worst case scenarios - it can be a waste of energy and time, and you and your sister will be stronger together with 'can do' attitude (even if a challenge is really hard).
I've really valued the people around me that want to help me live my best life possible and who can really listen, without judgement, when I want to share, explore or just rant.
