Bowel cancer CARERS, FAMILY & FRIENDS chat

Morning Vicky soo happy everything went smooth hopefully she will be hope soon I'm sure they will take care of her until then. Gosh what a year who would have thought this year has been horrendous I was always taught good follows bad we are all waiting for the good but it is good Margaret has a straight forward surgery now relax this weekend don't think too far ahead xx

Bless you Vicky don't they keep us on our toes Simon is complaining of bone pain but as also his reply it will be alright I get soo cross.The fissure les has will be difficult to heal if he has to keep wiping is he using wipes and cream salt bath or aloa vera.Sending you love and yes last Christmas here was a daze awful soo already feeling nervous we all want winter and Christmas to fly by  xx

Helen I'm am sorry to read about Paul our children even though they are adults are a worry Adam my son met the diabetic nurse on his own Thursday more bloods he has already given up alcohol but his has a halloween party and it's sad at 27 he should be able to party once in  a while but I'm pleased he's taking it serious he had bloods to find out if type 1 or 2 but Adam didn't want to know until he meets nurse next week because he said he will be scared until meets nurse obviously he was hoping for 2 told him either way we will get through it like everything else xx

I hope they do.  Well he has been 10 times this morning. Just peanut sizes he said but every time he goes his bottom hurts with the fissure. He is very restless. As I said I am feeling down as we don’t see the grandchildren much as Les gets too tired and one of them always has something wrong with them. Just been cleaning and feeling sorry for myself. I will have to talk to myself and thank my lucky stars. 

take care everyone and hugs xx

Hi Jkee. At least he is taking it seriously.  Les said the baby wipes etc make it sting. Honestly because I am not a nurse he won’t listen to me. I bought a load of them as well but no he won’t use them or anything in the bath unless a nurse says so I am wasting  my breath. 

don’t forget to take time out for yourself too Jkee. Sending a big hug Maggie xx

Hi Maggie what was soo soothing for me after lots of research and speaking to nurse was the witch hazel  pads £8.81 on amazon oh my gosh you just lay the wet wipe on his bottom is so cool and deffo did not sting it cools and refreshers the area have the wipes water only if sented will sting hope this helps x

Maggie you sound exasperated!! Take a deep breath!!

Helen x

Well today did not go as expected. Les been up going to the loo doing little poops and he said it feels like a blockage. I did not hesitate and he did not stop me ringing the macmillan nurse. He looks awful and I get the feeling he is giving in.  She booked a bed and we went in about 12. They are keeping him in and someone will see him tonight and surgical team tomorrow or somebody like that. My head is in the rubbish bin. I want to just cry but I can’t. Like you all I feel so alone.  I have just got back as the hospital is only 15 mins away. I gave him his chemo tablets and he said he was not bothered so I told the nurse.  He has not had any laxatives today either so you can imagine what he is going to be like tomorrow.  I just needed to get this off my chest so sorry for being a moaner.

love to all Maggie xx

Maggie you can moan all you like on here and get it off your chest. I understand how worried you must be but he is in the best hands

Helen x 

Don’t know where the last bit of my message went, must have pressed a wrong key. Try and get some rest tonight and see what tomorrow brings. Sending you a huge hug

Helen x