Bowel cancer CARERS, FAMILY & FRIENDS chat

Vicky bless you STOP just give your self the weekend you need help to start on Monday your head will explode if you try and do everything at one make a list if it helps you need family and friend this weekend and take any help for the rest . I agree we have been chatting about our partner's  on here and some of them have gone makes me think about our future luckily we can also read some positive stories my love is sent to you and everyone on this forum xx

I am so sorry to hear that your dear Jay has lost his fight Vicky. Please take the weekend at least to be kind to yourself and not worry about formalities. Take all the help and support that is offered and if you are tired in the day just take a nap. Sending hugs your way. Pauline

Morning Vicky, you can ring on Monday and they will collect all the stuff, they took ours in in go and there was loads. When Sally and I went to register Kevin’s death the registrar informed pensions, benefits, passports, driving licenses etc so it saves having to get in touch with them all which was a good help as your mind can’t cope. Take your time and don’t rush into anything - hope this helps

Helen x

Hi Vicky, I am so sorry to hear your news. You have been incredible throughout his illness and I am sending you hugs and love. Take care. Please look after yourself love Mel xx

Thank you Everyone!

I've got the ball rolling with the undertakers. apparently I dont need to physically go into the registrars office now. Since covid everything up here has changed apparently and these things can all be done remotely. The hospital will email me through a copy of the death certificate  and the undertaker said they will get a copy mailed through to them so saves all the hassle of to'ing and fro'ng. I should get the death certificate through either Monday or Tuesday and the undertaker said someone will phone me on Monday to make a time for me to go and arrange things with them. Got the car insurance sorted today and they have said it can stay as it is and I will still be covered to use the car they said it will just run until it expires next year and then it will all get changed into my name only both Jay and myself were on the insurance. Just back home from having lunch out with William and Nicole and wee Myla. William looking after me phoned me this morning to say he and Nicole wanted to take me out to lunch. Went to a park just on the outskirts of Glasgow where they have a garden centre and a restaurant and there is a kiddies playpark they go there regular with the wee one so we went there and had lunch then went to the park with the wee one. It was so warm I'm sorry I wore my jeans and wish I wore a pair of shorts but it was nice to get out for a little while. Got a lovely bunch of flowers delivered from one of my neighbours and a few sympathy cards already. It will take time I know to adjust it's only been one day but I'm sure I'll get there. Take Care All

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Gosh Patty you are on a roll considering the circumstances. I would probably be the same trying to keep myself busy.  Don’t overdo it as you may crash and burn. Have been thinking of you all day. Take care and take it easy as well.  Sending huge hugs to everyone xx

I to have been thinking about you all day Vicky I am glad you have William he will be needing you as much as you need them baby steps sending hugs xx

Oh I am so sorry to hear this PattyK . Jay endured so much with such dignity .

Goodbyes are so very hard . 

I know the park you mean . I used to take my dad there for a walk .

Take special care and I am glad you were by his side .

Court x 

Roukenglen Park Court?? It has a garden centre and a restaurant and there is a kiddies play area with swings and climbing frames etc. William and Nicole take the wee one there quite often. There was a mini funfair there today with rides and bouncy castles. Couldn't get the wee one to go on the bouncy castle insisting her mum or dad went on with her but adults were not allowed. She eventually got on and then decided she wasn't coming off as they had an allocated time of five minutes and only so many were allowed on at one time. It was good to just get out for a an hour or two and not actually be going to a hospital. 

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That’s the one . It’s such a pretty park !

So glad you got to go there today . Just being together and spending time together is so important just now .

One small step at a time .

Court