Bowel cancer CARERS, FAMILY & FRIENDS chat

Hi Ladies!

Just catching up with your posts. Just wish I had some encouraging words to say but don't and all I can do is send my love and strength to you all. Maggie if you want to cry just do it even if means going into the bathroom and turning the tap on so Les doesn't hear you you need to get it out. As I said I was never done crying when Jay was going through his treatment but now he's gone I can't cry at all for him maybe just a little trickle if I'm watching something sad on TV but not full waterworks which I don't feel is enough. I know it will eventually come though but when I don't know. Take Care everyone.

Vicky xx

When I cry my eyes swell and he knows I have been crying. Your words are of comfort and support. I am just feeling sorry for myself at the moment, hopefully it will pass. It is because we can’t go to the 8 year olds party well not a party they are taking her to York where there are caves. It is too far but hopefully will see her on the night as we have her presents.  Just little things that mean a lot.  I just don’t feel settled suppose waiting for next week with 3 appointments.  His oncologist is not ring until the 19 June which to me seems long as he will have been off chemo 3 months and with it growing that is worrying. I know I should have a good cry and release some of the tension but then I stop. It is pouring down here so been cleaning the bathroom xx

Maggie you will feel sad I have missed so much with my grandchildren I should be having them this week we were saying first Covid now Cancer we have all missed out with the little ones .You know how I feel about delays and appointments just seems forever  sending hugs xx

Jkee isn’t it awful but we have to be there for our hubbys.  I am starting to feel that way now about delays and appointments.  I seemed to cope okay before but mot now xx

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So sorry Les is in pain, every twing sends our minds into overdrive with fear. Martin doesn't have any pain perhaps because he had it removed prior to chemo due to fear it would rupture, he has caecum cancer which had no symptoms until it was so big it blocked his bowel, even the fit test was negative. My anxiety manifest differently to yours I get migraines but I know people who have the tummy issue like you. Please try to look after yourself, I know easier said than done.

Nancy x

Hi Nancy. We are mot sure of the next stage but he does need to take laxatives otherwise he would get bunged up.  Apart from all other symptoms my ectopics are really bad.  It is just all the worry and waiting like Jkee says. I am up really early in the morning and then have to choose my moment to go in the shower as Les usually has a bath after the loo to keep himself clean. It just seems never ending and no relief. Better put iPad on charge down to 10 per cent xx

Hi Everyone!

Just checking in to see how you are all doing. Hope you are all bearing up ok. The weekend again and the start of June tomorrow (Saturday) not a month I'm looking forward to. Had my wee granddaughter and `granddog` on Tuesday going into Wednesday William and Nicole were at a wedding on Tuesday (odd day to get married but seemingly it's cheaper) and they were booked in overnight at the venue William was one of the `groomsmen.  So I had a housefull Tuesday/Wednesday kept me going if nothing else. They have a big labrador and she is a big docile thing but I think my wee `Jack's` nose was put out of joint because I was giving her more attention because I was trying to keep her calm as she was a bit anxious at first not knowing where she was but she soon settled. Sending you all hugs as always. 

Vicky xx

Just sat thinking of you all.  I don’t think I am bearing up at all due to next Wednesday. I am happy you had a houseful it will have kept you busy. Where has that year gone. It seems to be just passing by so quickly.  You will manage in June as you are stronger than you think. just raise a glass to jay.  I have no words of comfort but a big for you.  You are an inspiration.

jkee and everyone else I am thinking of you all.  Love Maggie xx

Hi Vicky we are ok here considering what Simon has been through to be honest each day flows into one but at the moment I am counting my blessings as a few weeks ago I was watching him die painfully and only given a few weeks to live. I like Maggie will not be looking forward to next weeks with the results from all the 4 Cancers not expecting good when have we ever had that but really don't know what they are going to say. Simon is still on a cup of soup diet as one of the Cancers was in the small bowel they had to join back to the intestines so food has to be soft but dare I say he is looking ok. Maggie I understand your fear will increase over the next few days but we are with you in thought love to you all xx

Morning all, you are all having a tough time just waiting for results etc hard for them but even harder for the partners I think sometimes. It would have been Kevin’s birthday  today so I’m sitting looking at photos and wishing he was here. Off to Italy on Wednesday with Sally for a welcome break. Paul’s house is cleared now and up for sale so only have to keep grass under control which isn’t easy with all this blooming rain. 

Thinking of you all and will try and look while I’m away to see your results Maggie fingers crossed.

Helen

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