Bowel cancer carers, family and friends chat

Thankyou. Nurses have been and upped morphine and stuff to dry up so he doesn’t cough. He looks so much more comfortable now, carers due at 6 and don’t really need them tonight as don’t want him moved about now. Son has been so upset and feeling useless and it’s so hard seeing your grown up son crying like a baby. I’m trying to be strong for everyone but just having 5 mins on my own on the sofa while all is quiet sally staying tonight with me and will ring for nurses if we need them. Think next day or two are going to be hard but can’t change anything . Wouldn’t wish this on anyone. 
love to everyone going through this xx

Hi Torry,

Sending you the biggest of hugs and wishing I could somehow help. I'm glad the nurses have made him comfortable and glad you have company tonight x

You are all in my thoughts as always xxx

I like Les company as we really have not spent time apart from working which I can do from home as I do private work for a consultant psychiatrist si I am with him 24 hours a day now.  The chemo is really taking its toll on him and he is very tired all the time. I hate seeing him like this. He has lost weight and now needs probably a 30 or 32 waist.  I really can’t bare to see him like this xx

Dear torry try and stay strong and keep holding his hand. You are stronger than you think as I would need a lot more support around me not that there is anyone but a really good friend.  You are in my thoughts at this difficult time. Please look after yourself  as you need to be strong.  I know what you mean but I do not have a son just two daughters and if I mention anything she bursts out crying. This is the hardest time for you,  all my love Maggie xx

Morning how is everyone coping. Just checking in. Patty did you sleep okay. Torry did you get some rest xx

Good morning all.

Thinking of you all as always and sending love. Had a blip recently as my partner was sorting his will which at 41 years old just seems mad, (I know many our age have a will but the though that its a necessity )I got very upset but he said it helps him to be practical so I pulled myself together. 

On we go ladies, hugs to all ️️️️

Amy xxx

Good Morning another day thinking of you all had a bad day yesterday just can't lift the black cloud but I have decided I cant be bothered to pretend to people anymore everyone around me since they found out nothing more for Simon they have all stopped visiting and ringing I quess getting on with their own lives unless you have cancer in your life cannot understand sending prayers to you all xx

Jkee pop to the GP and get something to help lift the black cloud as it only gets worse and makes anxiety and depression worse. You need to get something. It is nothing to be ashamed of. I understand about people not ringing. They may text Les (his work colleague’s) now and then but nothing. We did our wills years ago and we’re going to put a codicil in as his mums estate when finished is quite substantial but in the scheme of things I could not care less. It was tough last year and even tougher this year. As always everyone in my thoughts lots of love Maggie xx

Thankyou Maggie I did burst into tears to receptionist this morning been suffering what I think is piles for week no treatment working she at first said walk in hospital but when I said about Simon straight away she got me in for morning just crying all the time I will be letting it all out I'm sure.Love to you x

Jkee I have piles and had them for years and now there is blood in poop. I have not done the test and hoping it is the stress of what is going on. Now and then I put germaloid to relive them. I know I should do the test but in 2021 I went and there was nothing. Fingers crossed it is the piles. I just feel so sad and helpless and stressed. Love to everyone. The tablets do help though as I am not as anxious. Love to everyone xx