Hi all, thank you for accepting me. My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer. At present I am not accepting it, it makes me feel sick, panicky, shaky etc. it was a complete shock. Anybody else in the same situation. Many thanks
No Jay can't get chemo now it was the chemo that did damage to his kidneys too. Goodness, I didn't know Simon had sepsis too must be common thing with cancer or an infection that is easily caught. Jay can't get anymore cancer treatment at all. Whether that changes down the line somewhere I don't know and they are just concentrating in giving him pain management just now. But it's enough for me to be going on with just now that that is at least working and he impressed the physios. Yes hope the `dark days` are coming to an end for a little while. I remain `cautiously optimistic` better to take this attitude, I think.
It’s like central station in here today with nurses coming and going all day and another driver put in. MacMillan have been today and said obey think only days now - hard to take but he is good today so I’ll take that x
Good news Patty that he is up and had a small walk around. He is stronger than you think he is. Fingers crossed for you. Xx
Jkee I am so sad for you. They told us if he had a blockage to go straight to hospital. Thankfully with all the laxido he takes it has not blocked. He is just tired all the time. I know what you mean about being alone with it all. I don’t think I have come to terms with really as doctor gave me mirtazapine which has calmed me down and sleep. I did not want it at first but hubby said if I am putting this poison in my body the least you can do is take the medication.
I think you are all troopers and extremely brave even though you all think you are not.
my thoughts are with everyone suffering. Just make sure you are looking after yourselves as well. Take care all my heartfelt love Maggie xx
Will see how tonight goes but I will ring asap for nurses if any problems. Kevin seems more settled, I was just dozing when he has just spilt a glass of juice - no rest for the wicked!! Never mind here’s hoping for a better night. Thoughts are with everyone travelling along this road with me xx
Thankyou. Kevin has slept and still sleeping which is good. I have slept on the sofa next to him just to keep watch. Paul and Sally both coming today to sit with him and nurses will be attending. Don’t know what today will bring but I hope it’s quick for Kevin’s sake as he wouldn’t want to be like this at all. He always said he didn’t want a funeral just to be taken and cremated and for the family to go have a nice meal and plant a tree in woodland trust. It’s so hard even just thinking about this but know it’s coming. Yesterday was a good day for him watching snooker and had a cup of tea - first one in weeks. He has never complained at anything that’s been done to him and I love him so much I don’t know how I’m going to cope without him after all these years. Xx
Dear torry you are so brave being with him on your own. I am pleased he watched snooker yesterday. When they come go and have a sleep and take som time for your self to get your strength back up. We all wonder how we are going to manage but we do. I find it extraordinary that people with this disease never complain. They are so strong. Les would not like to linger as he told me the other day and I can’t like you get my head around this. As long as he is not in pain and is peaceful that is all we can ask. My mum the day before she passed told me not to cry as we are not crying for them but us and I was only 36 at the time. God bless you and as always in my thoughts. Love and hugs Maggie xx
