Hi all, thank you for accepting me. My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer. At present I am not accepting it, it makes me feel sick, panicky, shaky etc. it was a complete shock. Anybody else in the same situation. Many thanks
Dear torry I hope you are coping. If not go to the GP or speak to someone. Having a good cry is also good. We all will be thinking of you. Patty have you tested negative yet. As always thoughts are in my heart x
Thankyou not coping very well - had nurse this morning and now clearing the living room to make room for hospital bed arriving this afternoon. Things are moving very fast for us now so just trying to make Kevin comfortable and pain free. Sally told her grandparents this morning for us as they are both in their nineties. So they are very upset. i Can’t speak for crying all the time and I know it’s not helping. In one way I hope he goes quickly but I do t want him to go - just being selfish. Hope everyone else is beating up x
There is no shame in crying...if that is what you need to do then do it. You are also absolutely not selfish at all...I think many people in the same situation will have had the same conflicting feelings, so please don't think you are being selfish at all. Have you called the Macmillan support line at all? I have used the online chat and they were really supportive.
Sending you amd Kevin as much virtual love as I can
Torry everything is moving fast far too fast. I am absolutely devastated for you. Have a bloody good cry and it might make you feel better. I just don’t know how you are coping. Sit and have a cuppa to get yourself pulled round. I don’t know how you must be feeling as we have not got to that stage yet but you need took after yourself as well. Go and see the GP it might help and get something for your sadness. Hubby would not want to see you like that. I hope you find the strength from somewhere to get through these dreadful times. Enjoy being with him even though you are hurting so much. I am so so sad for you and you are in my thoughts. Like Perkins I used the online chat without hubby knowing as I had no one to talk to. I know your daughter is taking time off but you also need to chat. We are here for you. You are not being selfish at all. You really have not had time to think at all as it has happening so quick. Look after yourself as well. Always in my thoughts. Maggie x
Chucking it down here too. Have been up and down all night checking on Kevin. He was very sleepy and has slept 12 hours and think next step will be a driver on Monday as struggling with all the tablets. He is worn out and I now feel would rather it was sooner than later as it’s so upsetting seeing him like this as he was so strong and could do anything. his parents are visiting tomorrow and it’s just not fair as they are in their 90’s and still going strong. It’s terrible that I feel bitter as they are canny folk. I have a heavy cold and cough now which I think I have caught from Kevin and feel lousy. Can anything else go wrong!! At least I let it out on here as don’t think I could actually say all this out loud so thanks for listening. Think of everyone in the same boat xxx
Dear torry. You are not selfish at at all. Seeing some one you love so much in a state is so very hard to bear. I would probably feel the same in your situation. We are all here to listen to you regardless of what you say. I hope you are getting help. Is your daughter staying xx
