Hi

Hi 

Welcome to the forum . I am sorry to hear your husband had such a difficult time post surgery ! 
My dad had a stroke two weeks before my mum’s diagnosis so I brought them to stay with me for six months . I will be very honest and say there were days I felt very depleted and had to think in terms of “ what was required of me today “ if I added in the future it was just too overwhelming. Part of this forums function is to reduce the isolation that a difficult diagnosis can bring , the fear as well and to draw strength from other people’s experiences. Sometimes just hearing how others worked through it and came through the process really helps .

I certainly think in all our minds is a big wall Callander where we mentally tick off each chemo cycle! 

I am really glad you joined in the chat and also remember if you ever want to speak in person to someone the helpline staff are there 0808 808 0000.

Take care ,

Court 

Hi and a warm welcome to the board from me too. Firstly I’m sending you a big virtual hug. I was only talking to my husband last night about how lucky we were that he was able to take time off from work to help me after my op. I’m sure your husband appreciates the support that you’re giving but are you able to have some time for yourself too? You could go out for a walk and grab a coffee on the way or phone a friend for a catch up? 

My step daughter gave us a calendar and each page has a photo on it. I commented on how tired her dad looked on one of them that was taken at a wedding during my chemo treatment and she said ‘yes he was so worried about you and how thin you were’ and I realised just how much my treatment had affected him too.

Im glad you’ve found us here. There is a carers board too if you want to pop in there as well? You can post/ask anything you like on here and there’s a monthly catch up thread on the go for just general stuff.

https://community.macmillan.org.uk/cancer_experiences/carers-only-forum

Take care

Karen x