Saw consultant today, I have been scheduled for surgery on the 18th February for anterior resection and possible defunctioning ileostomy. A mixture of relief they have said it appears contained to the bowel and terrified of what’s to come. They haven’t said whether chemo will be needed as depends on histology after tumour is sent away which they said can take around 6 weeks. I think I am more upset at how big of an operation I am facing and at least 5-7 days in hospital. I have 5 girls aged 23, 20, 18, 15 and 7. The older ones are okay and can at least understand and comprehend what’s happening but my little lady is going to be so lost without me at home. I’ve not been away from her for more than 48 hours. This more than anything is what’s making me cry and fall apart!!!
Hey there.
my daughter was 11 when I was diagnosed. We told her what was going on but did not use scary words until we knew what we were dealing with. I have a friend who went through cancer with smaller children and she was advised to just answer questions that they asked.
I found the hardest part was seeing my daughter upset. I then made the decision to just share the positives (thankfully I was told operable and curable)and that in turn it made me focus on the positives and it really helped. I kept away from friends who decided that I may not make it. Their energy didnt help us as a family.
I also found doing things together as a family before my op really helped.
Your little lady will want mummy to be happy and she can help look after you when you return home.
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