Hi everyone, it's a difficult one this I've never used forums or support lines before, I'm a 50 year old male, I was diagnosed with bladder cancer last year and my kidneys have also been affected by the tumour so I have had to be fitted with urostomy bags on each one. I have just finished first course of chemo and have a scan tomorrow so it's a frightening and anxious time. The worst part for me is the fear of however long life is after this is that it will be lonely, I won't go out and meet anyone ever again because I'd be too embarrassed about if I end up with no bladder or urostomy bags forever or whatnot. I have a couple of good supportive friends but my family are rather scattered and it's also surprising who ends up distancing you. On the positive side I got back in touch with an old friend I hadn't seen for ages, he has been amazingly supportive and it's been lovely to catch up, its almost like there wasn't a ten year gap in our friendship! I have two daughters 25 and 16 and a son of 9. I'm very worried for them, I want them to grow up with a father. Well sorry for rambling but there it is, if anyone has had a similar experience or just wants a natter here I am. :)
Hi Kapachin0 and a welcome from me. I went a different route but I am sure others will be along to share positive experiences of bladder removal. Best wishes.
