Hi there
My dad (85) was diagnosed last autumn with Bladder cancer, long history of urinary symptoms which he didn't go to the doctors about. Has type 2 diabetes, smoked a lot but gave up 20 years ago.
Dad has locally advanced bladder cancer, had a TURBT last autumn and staging was pT2 / grade 3 TURBT (eek).
Has been losing a lot of weight (lost 2 stone) and and started having falls , was admitted to hospital on a follow-up appointment to a rehabilitation ward as had UTI and now showing signs of dementia, sadly.
Dad is due to receive palliative radiotherapy and is being discharged for downstairs living at home with a full care package... it's all been so sudden since christmas and incredibly stressful.
My mum has severe mobility problems (walks with a frame), they live in a large house that's totally unsuitable for them - told them to sell it and downsize 10 years ago ... but you know what can you do. Community social services are involved and I'm doing as much as I can.
I have no siblings and live in manchester - parents in liverpool, I have family and a full-time job but I've let work know about the situation and they're supportive - I will probably be working reduced hours in the short-term ... see how things go. Both of my dads brothers are in poor health and one has an only child like me, she's having a difficult time. It's times like this that family pull together.
Anyway, hope everyone is OK out there and keep strong
Hi JFK and a warm welcome to the community. Sorry to hear about your Dad's situation. It must be very difficult for you not being nearer to him. I had radiotherapy, although not palliative, and didn't find it too bad. Painless with no side effects for me. I hope Dad can get the care he needs. You might find it helpful to call the mac free helpline on 0808 808 000 (8-8pm). They will let you know what help is available both practical and financial. I hope all goes well. Best wishes.
