Boo, there’s no place like home…

Good morning everyone, I hope you’re all as well as you can be…

First day back from a trip to Mexico… 

unfortunately I have to say it’s the worse holiday I’ve every been on….im gutted…

hotel 10/10

staff 10/10 

food 10/10

weather 10/10

why was it so bad then???? 

my wife decided that I needed a break from life after my BCG journey, last year while my wife and daughter in law and grandson went to Jamaica I stayed at home to look after our dog (Leo) but this year Mrs Nigel wasn’t having any of it. And she was right I needed a break..so off we went, Myself , Mrs Nigel, daughter in law, grandson and at the last minute, Daughter in laws mother…we have met her at a few family functions before and all got on..A friend of Mrs Nigel’s came over from Ireland to look after Leo while we was away…turns out he’s had a better time than we did…( for the purpose of this post I will refer to my daughter in laws mother as “ Oliver Reed” ) so the first red flag should have been the night before the trip, we stayed at the Hilton at Gatwick so to avoid a 3am drive the next morning. Myself and Mrs Nigel got to the hotel to meet up with the others, we couldn’t find them, after a phone call we found them in the “smoking area, for Oliver a fag is always accompanied by a rum and coke..so what you may think, they are on holiday too, it’s not all about you Nigel….now I’m the type of person who can let most things slide and it takes a lot for me to lose it..

so…we are in this amazing hotel and I’m looking forward to a few trips out to the ruins ect…Me and Mrs Nigel would get up early and have a coffee on the beach and watch the Sun rise…beautiful, but Oliver and daughter would have a coffee with a large baileys in it…again each to there own…

so Oliver and daughter in law would disappear for hours on end every day to “get some food which of course means smoking and drinking along the way..

so disappearing for hours on end..I can handle that..it’s their holiday too, smoking and drinking all day, not happy about it but I can deal with that also…

But what sent me over the edge was the way that Oliver and daughter were treating my grandson, he’s a 13 year old boy. He just loves to get into the sea and have fun, he doesn’t ask for anything, his school grades are good, he’s glued to his phone or iPad but what kid isn’t these days…for him a holiday is about the sea, food and ipad. So during the nightmare, Oliver and mother are asking Mrs Nigel ( she’s Italian ) at what age do they let kids try alcohol in Italy… 18 says Mrs Nigel knowing what Oliver was thinking..they kept constantly pecking at him…he hates alcohol, due to seeing what it has done to his friends fathers…(Another story) 

the blow up….so around 10 days in im finally at boiling point….and boy did I let them have it…I told them how they have spent more time away from our grandson than with him…I was embarrassed to be with them, the resort was all inclusive and they got their moneys worth.. every evenings meals was fully loaded plates of food which was rarely finished with loads of drinks..how can you bring your son/Grandson away with you and just ignore him throughout the day then pick at him in the evenings when he says he’s bored…for him watching the entertainment while drinking and smoking wasn’t his thing..even Mrs Nigel said she hadn’t seen me this angry for many years…he’s here at ours now for a few days, 

so I will never go away with daughter in law and Oliver again, my relationship with daughter in law will never be the same either, the only reason I’m civil to her now is because of grandson…( must just add, that the blow up happened while grandson was in the sea) he doesn’t know what’s happened…im so happy to be home away from the toxic two…this morning I got up and had a coffee on my little balcony with Leo in my arms having a cuddle…it was magic…grandson is asleep still .9.30am, Mrs Nigel is at work and I’m taking the “dogmother” back to the airport this morning..

the nice side of me says that it’s just a case of not getting along with the other two and that their idea of a holiday was different to mine..

the not so nice side of me thinks they are a pair of selfish so and so who don’t realise what an amazing kid they have in there lives…

Mrs Nigel has also said that she has never seen daughter in law treat her son like that..a completely different person to last year..

obviously I can’t put down all the explicit language that I would like to but trust me when I say it was horrendous…

next year if we go away it will just be Myself Mrs Nigel and grandson if he wants to…

and breath…

I’ve just read this back and to be honest I think I’ve been kind in my assessment of how they behaved…it was a lot worse…

love to you all The Nigel’s…xxxxx