Life

Hi Jas1978 and welcome to the group. I went a different way to surgery and so far so good. It sounds as though you are not happy with the way things have gone for you. Sometimes though, we don't really have a choice. Best wishes.

You right options was never there but neither was full picture of future 

None of really knows what the future holds & how things will work out. But we can control how we respond to the circumstances and try to make the best of the hand we are dealt. I'll never know if my surgery was necessary or not, and there are features of it that I would prefer not to have. But I am content that I made the right decision for me at the time. Hope you can find peace with how things are for you.

Thanks kind words I’ve battled many years trying fix things with my health strictures etc and major surgery to correct them to now be told it was unsuccessful but also have bladder removed prostate and nerve damage now live bag untreatable ED also NFD along with many other health problems inc heart disease being medical retired is hardest thing ever dealt with and only being 46 never pee like man again never have normal relationship with my wife again never optunity of a family so yeah taken it hard year on 

For me letting it take it's own course would have been a death sentence.  No choice, I had a RC

I can see how all those problems are likely to cause a considerable level of stress. Hope there is suitable support where you live, to help you cope with it all. Best wishes.