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Hi autumn88, and so sorry for the situation. Please call the Macmillan helpline as I am sure they will point you to the sort of resources you are looking for.

Denby

Hi autumn88 . Sorry to hear about your Mum. Macmillan has prepared some useful information  on caring for a loved one. You can read it if you click HERE . And as Denby says, the Mac support line is always helpful (0808 808 0000 8-8pm) Best wishes.

Hi autumn88, sorry to hear your mum's prognosis. Hope you can spend some quality time with your mum, and the medics will support you in keeping her pain free and well cared for. The palliative care service is usually very good. I spent time at my best friends bedside during the last weeks and it was a poignant but uplifting experience to help her slip away surrounded by our love. Sending you hugs.Hx

Hi autumn88,I’m so very sorry to hear about your mum.My mum died last year with dementia.My sister and I found we went through anticipatory grief.We were starting to distance ourselves from mum and found it hard to visit her in the nursing home.We understood later that this can happen when you know your loved one will die.During mum’s final days we spent time with her telling her how much we loved her.It brought us comfort that we were able to talk to her or just sit quietly holding her hand.Mum became less agitated too so perhaps she did know someone was with her.After mum’s death I found the grief was worse in the mornings.I didn’t understand why and rang CRUSE for help.The lady there was so kind and said that this was common.I found it helpful to talk to her and she was very understanding.Have you tried your library ? I have seen books on grief in ours.They may be able to recommend something to help.Love Jane xxx