Mental health

mpb1963, completely agree. And from my point of view as nearest-and-dearest, he doesn't 'do' forums, or cancer anxiety [Asperger's may have something to do with that, everything is black and white never grey]...this forum is definitely my safe and go-to space.

The poor NHS is so stretched that they are miles away from treating the whole person, I fear it may not be in the training... Our old GP was Serbian, she really believed in you as a whole person and would do anything for your wellbeing [eg the viagra]. She always complimented us on doing our best to take good care of ourselves [eg good food, exercise] and said that she knew if we did come in we needed something she could help with. Her opening gambit was always on the lines of, "hello, good to see you, what can I do for you?" We used to feel better [mentally especially] just for seeing her. I wish her a happy retirement.

Keep talking anyway, we are reading. 

Denby

Hi mpb1963

Slightly off topic but on the subject of mental health..

I have suffered from anxiety and depression for year's now and well before my Cancer diagnosis. It's not until you experience it do you really understand. I was the same "just get over it", "just have a beer and you'll be fine". Even when I lost a friend to sucide, many year's ago I still didn't get it.

It's bizarre how my brain works now, when diagnosed all I could worry about was attending the chemo session's and hospital appointments etc rather than the actual cancer. 

I was talking to a friend about my Cancer and anxiety, and mentioned if a doctor could cure my anxiety or cancer I would opt for anxiety. Not because cancer isn't serious, but I would do anything to feel normal again.

Please do look after your mental health, which is tough when cancer comes along. And seek help if needed.

Take care all.

Hi BFG,

Thanks. I am going to have therapy. Would have never have yhought I'd say that... but I need help and I see it now...

What's really good that you're getting help.  

I've had a number of therapy sessions over the years, from group to one to one. The one to one session really turned me around. From pretty much being unable to go outside, to getting back to work. 

I won't go on to much about my head, but things like COVID and now cancer have knocked my confidence over the last couple of years. 

Take care.

Mental health is often underestimated when it comes to dealing with a cancer diagnosis. It's not just about the physical battle but also the emotional and mental toll it takes on us and our loved ones.
I recently came across a mental health awareness blog that touches on various topics, including the challenges faced during times like these. It's important to acknowledge that your mental health matters and that it's not your fault for experiencing anxiety or depression. It's a natural response to the difficult situations you've been through.
Don't feel like a fool or blame yourself. It's okay to seek support and take care of your mental well-being. Friends may have different reactions, but remember that everyone's journey is unique. Focus on healing and finding ways to mend your mental balance.