I am having a bad time lately.
My son is in alcohol recovery and living with me since he tried to take his own life in January. He was doing fine until a relapse 3 weeks ago when he got absolutely smashed, came home, and because I would not let him in the house ( that was the only rule when he came to stay here, that he would never come home drunk). Anyway he started kicking and punching the door and shouting swear words at me. I called the police who took him away. He is now back here as it's the only place he feels safe and I know that if he was alone again he would not last long. I love him dearly and we do get along great, Am hoping he sorts himself out but know it will take a long time. He is getting support from a group.
All the time this is going on I have my bladder cancer.to deal with Now been told yesterday that I have to have my bladder removed.
I am also dealing with all my son's messy divorce.and finances
Feeling very frazzled today
Hi my name is Malcolm and I am an alcoholic and have been sober for over 32 years I had a tumor removed from my bladder in March but because of other health conditions can't have treat and have been given a survival time of 12 to 24 months. I joined alcoholics anonymous and they helped me stay sober. I am very sorry for your problems and hope things get better soon wishing you all the very best from Malcolm
Well I am afraid that you have to think of yourself first. I have a very good friend who has trouble with her son and it eventually lead to the parting of the waves.
Surgery is daunting, I had mine five years ago and you have to readjust to a new way of living. However, it's been fine and life has been very good since the op. You'll get plenty of support here in many ways, so you're not on your own.
It is really important that you take care of yourself, if you don't, how are you going to look after others? Hopefully, things will turn out ok with you and your son.
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