Hi all, like to give you a bit of history how I was diagnosed. Last year I unfortunately cought COVID and was rushed to hospital, as I was vomiting blood and very poorly. That was after I had both vaccines of astro. I was in hospital for three weeks. During this time I started to loose weight and a lot of blood so much I needed numerous blood transfusions. After I as the doctors said I was stable, I was discharged. A week later I was in so much pain and losing so much blood my partner called for an ambulance. After numerous tests in hospital and ultrasound the women was concerned about a shadow in my bladder and sent me to another department. While here I had a camera inserted which was very painful and they found an abnormal mass in my bladder their words. And was told not to worry. The doctors said the mass was as big as my bladder. After this they discharged me and I had to wait a month in total fear and pain before an appointment for a turbt. They also took a biopsy for what grade of cancer. Which I had to wait two weeks. Turned out to be grade 1. I had a further two turbt to remove the tumour over a period of three months. Third time my surgeon said third time luck hey! After the third turbt and removing all of the tumor, my consultant said I would need chemotherapy to stop the tumour returning which I am waiting for now. I have since had to have further camera s inserted into my rectum as I am bleeding here to, I'm just hoping it's not connected. I'm finding it hard to concentrate on day to day activities and my partner is also finding it tough, and we always arguing about the silliest things not sure are relationship will survive. Sorry for being so down.
Hi Lawrence. They put us through many indignities, so there is little we cannot talk about here. We understand. We know that treatment does have a bearing on family members and can cause difficulties with relationships. The trauma the body goes through does have a big impact on libido. Treatment takes a toll on energy and at the same time has an effect on emotions. It does take time. Hopefully your partner will understand. Best wishes.
