Writing a Will

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I do not have a Will & feel in light of the cancer that I should get one done. I will leave everyting to my wife & the will is just to make things simpler for her.

How should I approach this with my wife? She is incredibly supportive, but also very dismissive of any negative thoughts. For instance, she refuses to use the word "cancer". If I write a Will, she would see this as giving up & be dreadfully upset.

I'm not sure I can do it secretly as we do everything together.

  • Difficult situation! However, making a will is a part of fiscal planning for the future. Not having a will can lead to unseen  consequences. It is important that both of you are fully covered in case of death. Don’t forget it might not be you who dies first. We chose to arrange our will through Macmillan knowing our future is secure. Garviv 

  • Difficult, but it is something everyone should do. People often assume everything will go to a spouse if there is no will, but that isn't the case. Perhaps introduce the topic as a task for both of you to do as a sensible part of planning for the future, like house insurance etc.

    We made wills once we had children & now we are intending to draw up Lasting Power of Attorney for finance & health issues. It's too late to do it when they're needed. 

  • Oh how I so agree! We have hit real trouble with a relative. My OH is her next of kin and her roof needs repair after a leak. She has enough money in the bank but the roofers saw that she is 'vulnerable' [early dementia] and will not start work unless my OH countersigns the contract with him named on an LPA. But she refuses to do one!

    Our daughter and son in law are doing their own via .gov.uk for about £400 for health as she has had to treat unconscious road accident victims in A&E and knows they can be young. 

    Denby