Found out very quick well in a matter of 2 weeks that my beloved mother in law has 3-6 months to live it’s devastating we live with her and have a 2 young kids with us 12 and 4. My husband is at a loss she raised him by herself really and out two youngest idolize her my oldest (17) is taking it super hard my 12 year old hasn’t taken it in I think and what on earth do I tell my 4 year old as his nanny gets more and more ill . She is like a second mum to me and I feel horrible comparing her and my biological mum as she herself lost her battle with cancer over 20 years ago I was only 14 .
what do I do to ease this journey ( don’t know what to call it ) For every one when all I do is brake down and cry , I have some chronic illnesses/ pain and I’m trying to cope with vast pain and guilt over not wanting to say anything because my pain is nothing compared to what she is going through .
how do I help her prepare ? How do I help my husband? How do I keep my kids happy as they can be I feel helpless why can’t I wave a magic wand and make this go away it’s not fair she has beaten it 2 times already and she is only 61.
Everyone here is so incredibly strong god bless you all xx
. Really sorry to hear your mother in law's condition has deteriorated. I know from personal experience how hard this can be for the family to have a loved one in this position. It is difficult for young ones to understand, and I found it easier to break things to them in stages rather than coming straight out with it. You will need to let teachers know as they may notice a different attitude in school. Schools are very good at offering counselling sessions to help them understand. Do you intend to keep mum in law at home if possible? If so, there is help out there and your GP will help. When you feel up to it, could I suggest you call the Macmillan helpline on 0808 808 0000 (8-8). They will advise on what help you would be entitled to as well as offering support. Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.
