Hi all,
Yesterday I came off social media so thought it was about time I went old school back to forums lol.
I was diagnosed with kidney cancer 2015, after having a kidney removed cancer was found in my bladder. After many years of treatment (mito initially until that had to stop, then bcg) and countless rigid cystos I was given one last chance at an attempt to stop the re-occurring non muscle invasive tumours (EMDA). This would mean I would have to self cathertise due to a stricture I have and would last 9 weeks. a couple of weeks ago I found out I was going to be made redundant the first week in February so I contacted my CNS and asked not to go ahead with EMDA but to go straight for the bladder removal with a view to the end of all the trauma of the past 5 years and the complications that have come with it.
So now I'm heading for that, I have a CT scan a week on thursday - chest, abdo and pelvis, the usual stuff; in preparation for hopefully an operation to remove my bladder before I get made redundant. I just couldn't see a way that going through treatment an then trying to find a job with the possibility of this operation next year as this would not be a USP for me to my potential new employers lol.
My consultant has explained nerve sparring and the chances it won't work, I know I'll have a back for the rest of my life but it will be a bag that will change my life - it won't be a bag that weighs me down like cancer has, it will be a bag that reminds me that I have fought the hardest I could until I had to give up the one thing that potentially can kill me; my bladder.
I feel for anyone who goes through this, in my mind, one of the most invasive of cancers as far as treatment is concerned; I also know I will need loads of support which I will take with open arms.
Hi,I’m sorry you are facing losing your job and bladder removal.I had my bladder removed last September.I had a stoma but have adjusted fine to life with a bag.You sound as if you will cope well with a stoma.Cystectomy is a big op and the recovery can drag on.The support I got here was brilliant and kept me going on the bleaker days.I found the whole process was a bit of a rollercoaster.It’s normal to have good days and bad during and after the surgery.To give you some positivity I was back caring full time for my elderly disabled mother 8 mths after the op.Love and best wishes Jane xx
Hi skiduck, it sounds like you have made decisions which feel positive for the future when life threw you a curved ball. Well done, because everyone on this site knows how frightening these choices are. Sending you a cyber hug. x
Hi Skiduck,
I’m thinking you are male when you mention nerve sparing.
I am a 54 year old male and had Radical Cystectomy In June and am having 3 monthly scans this week.
Everybody is different and therefore so are recovery times, but I am back at work, playing golf, going to the pub!
My surgeon discussed nerve sparing operation on the prostate and explained it might not work.
Maybe I am lucky, but mine did I and have erections as per pre-op. So don’t assume yours won’t work. And if it doesn’t you will find other ways.
Again, maybe I was lucky but my original, local surgeon said I would have to have a stoma and bag, but the specialist surgeon in Charing Cross hospital questioned this and did a Rigid Cystoscopy to look herself and determined it was possible to perform a NeoBladder operation.
During the main Radical Cystectomy they created me a new bladder with part of my bowel, so no bag.
Now of course that may not be possible for you for many reasons, but just wanted to highlight the benefit of a second pair of eyes. And a bag would certainly not be the end of the world. I have a friend who has a bag and we discussed his daily life and he says he hardly notices it now and does everything he did before his op.
It does sound like you have made the best and bravest decision though.
cheers.
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