I am ready to give up

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I was diagnosed with t3 bladder cancer in October. After the initial shock and horror I had a meeting with urologist and macmillan nurse. The doctor drew up a plan for me: 3 rounds of chemo and then operation. Everything seemed clear. 
not for long. When I was in the hospital for turbot I was given oral morphine for pain relief and was discharged with it plus paracetamol as painkillers. Because the pain inside my bladder was becoming quite bad.

And it was getting worse. 
Then as I was going to start my first chemo they found out that I have a bladder infection, so chemo was postponed and I was sent to Same Day Emergency Care. They gave me antibiotics, put on the drip and said that I CANNOT take morphine for pain as it is bad for kidneys and they will find something else for me. I was there 3 times this week  

so this is where I am now:

on second lots of antibiotics and I am not sure if this one is working too

in CONSTANT AGONISING PAIN from which their new help, oxycodone, doesn’t help

going to the toilet every 15 minutes to relieve myself of 2 spoonfuls of urine

trying to get hold of my urologist or oncologist with no success as nobody rings back

i can’t sleep for pain, I can’t eat, I can’t even seat -only stand or lay flat

Is it a life? I honestly think perhaps it’s better to stop my suffering 

sorry, just had to get it off my chest

  • You need to contact your support nurse and tell them what is happening, you need your pain medication changing. Have they mentioned a catheter so you're not on the toilet all the time? Hope you can access some help, don't give up, I know it's hard but your life is valuable- there's help out there 

  • Carolyn is correct. Contact someone in your medical team. I do hope you are feeling better soon. Garviv

  • It sounds like hell. But as others have said you must contact your support nurse and enlist their help. They are often the key to getting help. Pivotal in fact. I really hope you get some help very soon, there is usually a solution to help, which your medical team can implement. Leo

  • Hi Irinacat,I’m so sorry you are in so much pain.I have been in your situation and know how miserable it is.Definitely contact your team and explain how much pain you are in.How much fluid are you drinking ? As much as you don’t want to be going every few minutes the less you drink the worse the pain will be.It’s important to make sure your urine is re tested to see whether the infection has cleared following the antibiotics.Some infections are more persistent than others so you may need more than one course of antibiotics.Please don’t give up there will be a solution for you.I hope you feel better soon.Love Jane xx

  • Thank you so much for mentioning the catheter, carolly! Yesterday I insisted on putting it in and slept through the night first time in three months!

  • That's great!! It makes a difference doesn't it Well done for asking.  

  • Hi Irinacat , thats so good to hear . sleep is so important for physical healing and mental health too. Hopefully getting back on track with your treatment plan . Best wishes and take care 

    Much love Angela x

  • Hi, hope you’re feeling better today and managed to contact your support nurse too.  I just wanted to reiterate how important it is to drink loads.  Have you tried Robinson’s Lemon Barley?  The barley in it helps to neutralise the acid in the urine.  Good luck and I hope you can do something nice and festive to take your mind off it a bit 

  • I will definitely try it, thank you!

  • I feel for you having been through that cycle of pain and UTI’s. Being told  by consultants that they had no idea where the pain was coming from and getting nowhere. Tests for UTI’s often came back negative and I felt I was a fraud sometimes they were positive and every time I had the same symptoms. Pain  going for a wee every 10 mins it was a nightmare. Treated for overactive bladder  had Botox twice. Look at my profile for more. BUT at the moment I have not got that awful pain and my bladder is so much better. I had the cancer removed in Oct  and a ct scan had found no cancer cells. I have had 3 treatments of the bcg .