Hi, I’m here as my mum has cholangiocarcinoma that has spread to her liver, lymph nodes and lungs. She wasn’t suitable for treatment and has outlived her initial prognosis. She is now very unwell, at home, being cared for primarily by me (her daughter) with limited input from the local hospice. I feel so alone with her care and medication management. She no longer wants to be alive. How does anyone deal with this?
Hello Loubylou33
I’m Steph and I’m part of the Online Community Team here at Macmillan. I’m sorry that circumstances bring you here to the site, but I hope that you're finding it helpful to be able to connect with others in similar circumstances.
I was sorry to read about everything you’re going through with your mum. Whilst you’re waiting for a reply on the forums, I hope you don’t mind me reaching out to offer some further support.
We're concerned about your mum when you say that she no longer wants to be alive. If your mum is feeling suicidal, The Samaritans have this information to help you with supporting her.
We also want to help you seek further support so you're not feeling so alone with mum's care and medication management.
It’s good you are reaching out for some support from the Community, and I hope you’ll continue to do so. I’d encourage you to also use our Support Line to talk things through and find help seeking further support. Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
Might I encourage you to give us a call today so we can support you further?
Generally, your mum’s GP and health care team at the hospital are there to help with the way she is feeling and any practical issues she is facing. The ‘Supporting someone with cancer’ section of our website has lots of helpful information about which professionals are there to help, how to support someone and find the right support for yourself.
I hope this is helpful, please do keep chatting here on the Online Community and reach out for expert support when you need it.
